If Boys Would Be Men, Would Girls Be Ladies?
Fellow-blogger, Agent Tim, posts an interesting opinion piece published in Thursday’s edition of USA Today, regarding the severe lack of men on college campuses today. The article reads:
Currently, 135 women receive bachelor’s degrees for every 100 men. That gender imbalance will widen in the coming years, according to a new report by the U.S. Department of Education…
The piece cites employment rates, annual income, incarceration statistics, and even, adultescents, to support its argument that the male sex is facing great inequity in the world today. It concludes:
[T]he inequity has yet to provoke the kind of response that finally opened opportunities for women a generation ago. In fact, virtually no one is exploring the obvious questions: What has gone wrong?… Surely, a problem that creates crime, increases unemployment and leads to hopelessness deserves attention. Where are the boys? Too often, going nowhere.
As would be expected, such a piece sparked protest among feminists. Nancy Gandy, the president of NOW (National Organization for Women), was quick to dismiss the editorial as nothing but a “panicky article” that misrepresented the true facts. She writes:
[D]ominant groups find ways to protect their members. Much as they might deny it, people get special privileges for belonging to dominant groups (whites, men, heterosexuals).
In fact, in seemingly ironic deviation from the historical feminist view, Ms. Gandy is not even happy about women holding such a large edge in post-high school education. Rather she forecasts that women attaining greater education will only serve to decrease the emphasis that businesses place on education and capability, instead leading them to focus on the number of hours employees can work. This, she argues, will greatly discriminate against women, because of their housekeeping and child-raising responsibilities:
Women do more than 80% of unpaid family work, even though two-thirds of us work outside the home. Let’s face it — women can’t “have it all” if we’re expected to do it all! Women’s greater education will be a moot point until our society provides better policies for working parents.
Ms. Gandy then points out that while men and women have had equal post-high school education for the past 30 years, little has changed. To prove this, she lists statistics of women as percentages of Congress, law firms, mayors, judges, and Fortune 500 CEOs, before finally concluding:
Bottom line? I don’t see a few more degrees signaling the fall of patriarchy. We already know women are smart. But no matter how smart you are, it’s tough to win when the rules keep changing and you have to choose between work and family… [O]ur movement for genuine equality is still needed, NOW more than ever.
There are several obvious errors in Ms. Gandy’s arguments, as well as a few alarming and revealing statements regarding NOW’s true social objectives. Among them: Her call for better (read “more”) government childcare policies to free parents from the home, and the statement that true equality cannot exist while women must continue to choose between work and family.
However, the primary fallacy in her argument was her failure to address the main focus of the article she was refuting. In a word, men. The heart of USA Today’s editorial was the failure of modern boys, not the success of modern girls. Its focus was, “Where are the boys?” And not, “Look at the girls!” To highlight equal education opportunity and current statistics of women in high positions of state and business, is to effectively miss the entire point. The disappearance of young men on our college campuses is a relatively recent phenomena. Consequently, the concern must not be for the NOW (pun intended) but for the future generations of our nation, generations full of boys, girls, and women, but entirely devoid of men.
I believe the editorial was right on target when it theorized that, “a smart-isn’t-cool bias has seeped into boys of all racial and ethnic groups.” What is this “bias” but yet another demonstration of the effects of social conditioning and the myth of adolescence? While our culture’s media is full of feminist empowerment rhetoric, there is little social pressure or encouragment for young boys to aspire to anything greater than a future spot on a professional sports team; a statistical rarity of high degree. The problem is not that women have risen, that’s not even an issue here. The problem is that men have fallen.
Historically low social expectations are only beginning to show their long-term fruit, and they affect both sexes. However, it is becoming increasingly clear that it is our young men who are suffering most dramatically. In fact, a recent New York Times article, mentioned by Dr. Al Mohler earlier this week, reports a surprising new trend of young women in elite colleges planning on motherhood over career, despite the social pressures for them to do the opposite.
While several feminists quoted by the article attempt to argue that such decisions are the result of nothing more than a society still steeped in the strictures of archaic gender roles, there is no correlating trend among our nation’s young men to verify that argument. If such was the case, we should have expected a very different editorial in USA Today. The truth is that young men today possess little incentive, whether archaic or otherwise, to pursue excellence in career, marriage or family. True men are not only disapearing from our universities, they’re disapearing from society’s most fundamental institution, the family. Unless men, as the heads of their families, return to the historic call of biblical manhood, the family will continue to decay. This is a battle our generation must fight.
The USA Today editorial uncovers a disturbing, but not surprising trend. However, its focus remains too limited. A college degree is not absolutely necessary, but character, competence, and a true understanding of what it means to be a man are. The question presented to our generation is not: “Where are the boys?” But rather: “Where are the men?”













September 26th, 2005 at 11:59 pm
Huh. I just posted a whole bit on men unable to accept the mature responsibilities of adulthood - referring to you as a counter-example. And then I click over here and you guys already have the term “adultescence.” I think I wasted about 200 words over at Dawn’s blog.
Seven times I bow before thee…
September 28th, 2005 at 5:14 am
Alex,
Well done.
Mr. G
December 13th, 2005 at 5:35 am
Bravo!
April 22nd, 2006 at 11:14 pm
True. Today’s culture has been emasculated because of this idolatry of feminism. Feminists are so blindly fighting for their own rights they don’t even see they’re destroying them, and a few others to boot.
June 26th, 2006 at 7:54 pm
I find it interesting that the “biblical” view is not one of balance but one of total dominance of one sex over the other. God forbid women should have equal standing in this world - hint - they still don’t have it. Whenever women try to level the playing field, if men don’t see themselves in a position of total dominance, they cry, whine & complain. I’m happy I raised daughters and sons who do not share these opinions. Only men can immasculate themselves and each man has a different view on what exactly it is to be masculine.
July 11th, 2006 at 6:07 am
Mr. Don, i absolutely disagree with you that the “Biblical view” is imbalanced. The Bible does say that a woman should submit to her HUSBAND, not all men. Furthermore, she is to submit to her husband only when he puts her (and his family’s) best interest first. Plus, there are many many strong women in the Bible. Rahab is under celebrated, but she was very strong. I believe it’s in Isaiah that her story is told. She harbored servants of the Lord in an unGodly city, a crime for which she could have been executed. It’s one of my favorite stories.
The femenists have gone from trying to gain rights to trampling on the rights of men. Look at any sitcom. Generally they feature a dumb, overweight, plain man married to an intelligent, thin, beautiful woman. It’s a man-bashing industry at the moment.
Also, i have a lesbian aunt who is a man-bashing femenist and it’s very difficult to try to change these womens’ minds. They are resolute in their prejudices against men. My aunt assumes all men are pigs, jerks, and pedophiles because of the fact that she was raped by one who happened to be all of the above. Her history doesn’t justify her behavior though.
Ms. Gandy (in the article) makes women look bad, as far as i’m concerned. I intend to be a science professor AND a mother. why? Because i want to! Is it a bad thing for women to be the nurterer? I’m all for women having careers and such, but in nature the female is the one who nurtures the children. Obviously the natural thing is for the woman to take care of the children. In general, men get their sense of worth from being the breadwinner and women get it from being a mother. that’s simply how we’re hardwired. there’s nothing wrong with that.
As far as i’m concerned many of the femenists have taken a step backward because they aren’t engaging in a fight for their own rights anymore. Many of them have generalized, and now they’re engaging in reverse discrimination.
July 28th, 2006 at 2:48 am
Feminists (and liberals in general) have just about come to the end of their explanatory rope; if they were really being honest with themselves, they would realize (and admit) that (a)Feministic mothers emasculate their sons (it’s true–you might as well cut off our skinnacles and damn us to the life of a eunich while you’re at it), (b) More child-care funding makes all of us poorer, (c) No society can exist without men, neither healthily nor in practicality, and (d) The mainstream media propogates this pathetic drivel to the point of anality.
Get used to it, Don. You have been taught to believe in and teach your children a lie. The Great Lie of our time.
PMZ
August 8th, 2006 at 11:55 pm
I could not agree with you more,Alex and Brett.When one looks at what the modern defination of womenhood and manhood and the Biblical view,we can see how far people are from the original.I believe that when woman are true woman ,the men will take their place as leaders.As a woman I am called to be the mans helper,now that doesn`t mean that I can`t study or work,but I do believe that the family is the womens first responsibility.Not only that but also the womens first ministry.There is so much joy in Gods design for the family .But now women want to take the role of men and that is really distroying this generation.