Teen Girls Define “A Real Man”
UPDATE: “A Real Man” in PDF Format for download and print out.
Lori Hainline & Rebecca Chandler co-authored this list at the respective ages of 19 and 17. Their closing comment: This list is not exhaustive and men like this do exist!
A real man . . .
…understands and lives according to the basic purposes for which he was created: to worship, honor, and serve God. (Romans 12:1-2)…values and carefully handles the scriptures. (2 Timothy 2:15)
…doesn’t pride himself on being knowledgeable in the sinful ways of the world. (1 John 2:15-16, James 4:4, Philippians 4:8)
A real man . . .
…isn’t embarrassed to worship God and pray in a group setting. (Mark 8:38)…is wise, yet humble. (Proverbs 2:1-10, 1 Peter 5:5, Romans 12:16)
A real man . . .
…takes leadership in a self-sacrificing way. (Ephesians 5:25-28)…is kind because, “What is desirable in man is his kindness” (Proverbs 19:22)
…doesn’t try to prove himself but is simply confident as he walks in the fear of the Lord. (Proverbs 14:26-27)
…doesn’t put others down with his actions, attitude, words, or his strength. But on the contrary, he affirms and builds others up (Proverbs 15:4, Ephesians 4:29)
A real man . . .
…treats his sisters and mother with as much respect as he would treat a prospective wife. (Matthew 25:21)…not only respects but appreciates a young lady’s purity and innocence. In our culture innocence isn’t retained by accident. (2 Corinthians 11:2-3)
…values his purity as much as he values a young lady’s purity. He is not ashamed to live and act differently from the world in order to guard himself. (1 Thessalonians 4:1-8, Ecclesiastes 7:26)
…can look a girl straight in the eye without communicating any impurity. (Proverbs 20:11)
A real man . . .
…isn’t ashamed to identify himself with his family (Ephesians 6:2-3)…is a gentleman. He is polite and shows women honor in everyday things such as opening doors, etc. (1 Peter 3:7)
…has no desire to be gross in order to impress other men. He doesn’t burp, swear, or tell disgusting stories. (Proverbs 13:5, Ephesians 5:4)
A real man . . .
…shows by his actions that he loves children. (Matthew 19:13-14)…is pleasant and expresses joy rather than feeling that it’s masculine to be sullen. (Proverbs 21:29, 1 Thessalonians 5:16)
…doesn’t blame others for his own problems but embraces responsibility. (Proverbs 12:27)
…can accept correction (Proverbs 12:1, Proverbs 29:1)
A real man . . .
…is mature in his emotions and his expressions of them. He can deal with the trials of life logically, with wisdom, not on a basis of emotional instability. (Proverbs 14:29, Proverbs 17:27, Proverbs 12:18)…understands the value of work and is financially responsible. (Colossians 3:23-24, 2 Thessalonians 3:10-12, Luke 16:10-11)
…expresses himself with intelligent words rather than using “street talk”. (Proverbs 17:20, Titus 2:6-8, 1 Peter 4:11, Ephesians 4:29)
Comment section is open to guys and gals on any issues pertaining to what makes a man. “Part 2: A Real Woman” will be coming soon.
Be sure to download the PDF Version of “A Real Man” made available by The Rebelution.
January 31st, 2006 at 1:37 pm
wow…that’s good. I know if that’s the real man list, i’ll never (apart from HIS grace and work in me!) ever meet the standards for a real woman. Thanks for challenging us again!
(on a more humorous note, a friend of mine has chosen Daniel 1:4 as her more human–aka physical– “what i want in a guy” description.
“Young men without any physical defect, handsome, showing aptitude for every kind of learning, well informed, quick to understand, and qualified to live in the king’s palace.”)
:-)
January 31st, 2006 at 2:58 pm
Wow…
I’m looking forward to the ladies version!
January 31st, 2006 at 3:02 pm
Yep, real men like that do exist … I found one, held on to him, and married him. Nice list. It is lovely to see teenagers with high standards.
January 31st, 2006 at 4:40 pm
Amen!
January 31st, 2006 at 5:44 pm
Awesome post, guys! This one is being printed and put on my wall as a reminder!
January 31st, 2006 at 6:24 pm
What a refreshing post. You guys are a true blessing.. Thank you for your effort.
Craig T
January 31st, 2006 at 9:16 pm
It is very good…very true. I am speechless as I contemplate how the world would be different if more people followed this list.
Let’s make a difference…let’s do hard things!
HE will help us succeed!
January 31st, 2006 at 9:20 pm
Whoa! It’s gonna take a LOT of work to live up to that list!
High expectations….
January 31st, 2006 at 10:16 pm
I’m with Jacqui…if the girls’ list follows suit it’s going to be challenging for sure. Very good though, and I agree that’s what a real man is.
Out of curiousity, is the “Real Woman” list written by guys? It would seem more of a fair perspective if it were.
January 31st, 2006 at 10:24 pm
Hannah L: Yes, “A Real Man” is written by two teen girls and “A Real Woman” is written by two teen guys . . .
January 31st, 2006 at 10:49 pm
Excellent and very challenging…it’s nice to know there are guys out there like this
I’ll be sure to pass this on to my brother.
I’m also looking forward to the standards for a real woman…
February 1st, 2006 at 12:01 am
What a wonderful post! Thanks to the authors. …I can’t wait for Part 2.
February 1st, 2006 at 12:10 am
This is great! I will be anxious to see the “Real Woman” list.
February 1st, 2006 at 1:24 am
Its quite challenging, and I liked it. Nice pic of Atticus, now he is a real man.
February 1st, 2006 at 2:13 am
wow…thats awesome! I hope and pray the Lord has a man like that in my future. I hope and pray I can aspire to be “A Real Woman”
February 1st, 2006 at 2:37 am
A real man isn’t defined by a list of narrow(ly) mind(defin)ed Bible verses…
~Joel
February 1st, 2006 at 3:16 am
Wow, what a wonderful list! I can’t wait to see Part 2.
I really love reading your blog…thanks for the great work you’re doing to encourage other teens to live a Godly life!
February 1st, 2006 at 3:23 am
Thanks for posting the list. I’ve printed out the PDF version and plan to put it on the wall in my room as a reminder.
February 1st, 2006 at 3:42 am
Joel, I agree with you that a man may be defined in any number of different ways and does not necessarily fit into a list. However, I personally see this list as a great overview at least of what a man is by biblical definition. Each man is going to have his personality shown through certain traits more than others, but I think the list definitely has many things we can strive to add to our character, though we may not be “defined” by every single one. Does that make any sense?
February 1st, 2006 at 4:32 am
That is awesome!!
As a I can totally see the value!!
February 1st, 2006 at 5:22 am
thanks for posting this. I am going to print it and put it in my journal, for sure.
Can’t wait for the “real woman” list!
February 1st, 2006 at 5:26 am
First time reader, directed from HSD.
Your blog looks amazing and professional.
I have a sure feeling I’ll be back here again.
February 1st, 2006 at 12:40 pm
Wow…that is terrific. Definately downloading the PDF version ASAP.
February 2nd, 2006 at 3:06 am
Do I see the Family Harris in this post?
February 2nd, 2006 at 4:09 am
Andy K: Haha! Good guess, but no! Hopefully we’ll be able to post a picture of our family sometime soon.
February 11th, 2006 at 2:09 pm
Thank you for posting “A Real Man.” It’s wonderful to see people caring about how they should live before the Lord. Thanks again!
July 3rd, 2006 at 8:31 pm
I gotta say, I don’t see anything in Proverbs 13:5 or Ephesians 5:4 that condemns burping.
August 14th, 2006 at 1:21 pm
Challenge: How Jesus was all that? Please, paint us a picture of Christ.
August 29th, 2006 at 6:25 pm
Thought some here might be interested in knowing that Rebecca Chandler is now Rebecca Hainline. She married Philip Hainline, Lori’s next younger sibling. Philip authored the Real Woman List, which has been combined with the list compiled by the Reimer sisters. Together, they make up “Three Teens Define “A Real Woman”".
September 2nd, 2006 at 4:27 pm
Wow, I can never live up to that but it sure will be awesome to pursue it the rest of my days! That was a great blassing!
September 2nd, 2006 at 8:33 pm
I’ve been on this site for five minutes. Im addicted to it!
September 7th, 2006 at 7:01 pm
Humm…wonderful standards for my future husband wherever He may be. Actually I hope he read this.
mk
September 8th, 2006 at 5:37 pm
Wow, I hope I can live up to that.
September 14th, 2006 at 6:54 pm
Good luck guys! But I did read the ladies list and boy I have some work to do! Hopefully these lists will encourage a more Christ-like generation!
September 17th, 2006 at 7:31 pm
it’s a tough list, but it’s true.
glad to know that there are some guys out there that know it takes a lot of work to be a real man. unfortunately, too many guys out there don’t try hard enough to live up to GOD’s expectations. a lot of guys i know think it’s too hard, but no one can be perfect. GOD knows that we’re all sinners, and it’ll take a real dedicated man to fit into this list.
brett and alex, it’s encouraging to see that you guys are searching for ways to live up to GOD’s expectations.
kars;
September 23rd, 2006 at 6:12 pm
I’m so glad that we as young men and women can encourage and challenge each other
to be the kind of young men and women that God wants us to be.
After all, a “real man” is one that fully embraces the roll that God has given to him, and
a “real woman” is one that fully embraces the roll that God has given to her.
The Bible contains the only guidelines that we can know have stood until now and will
continue to stand forever and which have not and will not be changed by the values of any
society. They are eternal and unchangeable, ordained by the Creator.
Why should we listen to anyone but the Playwright regarding our respective rolls in this
great drama?
I certainly realize that nobody can ever “play their part” perfectly (especially me), but at
least we know where to go for directions!
Thank you so much for providing a place to share and talk about such things; I am sure
that it greatly pleases God.
October 11th, 2006 at 10:25 am
Congratulations to these two young ladies for taking time to seek God’s will, instead of conforming to the world’s opinion of “real men,” which is usually summed up in three words: hot, macho, sensitive. And I certainly congratulate Mrs. Hainline in following through on the wisdom she found!
I came here through a link from “Ladies Against Feminism,” and I am pleased to see that young folks (though you’re not too much younger than I am) aren’t the total “wash” one is frequently tempted to think you are.
Bless you for your stand on this issue. You know you’re right on when someone tells you you’re being “narrow-minded” for holding to God’s Word!
October 22nd, 2006 at 5:52 am
Good stuff!
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November 1st, 2006 at 11:16 am
How often do I personally forget that real masculinity comes from the heart not from actions. You can tell if you’re a man by the state of your heart. Keep up the good fight , men.
November 20th, 2006 at 9:11 pm
About time people realize what a real man is, Brad Pitt is nice to look at, but is there anything substantial about him?
December 3rd, 2006 at 9:54 am
Excellent.
The definition of a “Man” has been watered down and perverted throughout the years by the world’s opinion. But God’s Word holds true.
Thank you
December 14th, 2006 at 2:34 pm
Mhh….that is really good!!! I always think of traits I want in man, and those are alot of them! I love Titus 2. It dicribes a real man! Thanks for putting that up!
December 16th, 2006 at 9:42 am
AMEN to that!! I hope to find a real man like that.
December 22nd, 2006 at 7:46 am
Woot! you guys are right on the money. I will wait my whole life (if I have to) for a guy like that. That is truly what a man should stive to be.
December 26th, 2006 at 11:34 pm
Man, I first read that and I cowered, thinking of my own failings, and I never wanted to look at it again. Then I realized that it was my fear of accepting correction that needed to go, so I carefully looked it over again.
I praise the Lord for such a great compilation of Bible verses on this subject!
January 10th, 2007 at 1:14 pm
Very good!
January 12th, 2007 at 1:44 pm
Today was the first time I logged on to this site and I was very impressed with what you guys are doing here. Do you know who that family is in the pic you posted in the blog? I was surprised to see it and wanted to know if you put it in there on purpose, using those two young men as examples, or without any particular reason. In case you didn’t know, that is actually the Cherryholmes family. They used to be a part of my homeschool group. Those boys are two of the nicest, most gentlemanly young men I know and they both love God. They fit the description of a “real man” as you have described it here. If you put it there on purpose, all I can say is I totally agree. If you didn’t, it’s funny how God allowed you to choose a picture of two “real men.” Thank you for being a blessing through this websight! God bless.
January 24th, 2007 at 9:25 pm
I always need a reminder of what I’m supposed to strive to become in this world…a REAL man!
Thank you!
January 24th, 2007 at 9:53 pm
Nice Post.
That was well said. Always appreciate your indepth views. Keep up the great work!
John
January 28th, 2007 at 3:52 pm
Most of these verses were written for Christians of both sexes.
January 28th, 2007 at 3:53 pm
In other words…. the majority of these verses have nothing to do with being a male, much less a “real man.”
January 30th, 2007 at 9:38 pm
That is a wonderful “real man” list! As a sister and a daughter I am very proud to say that my brother and my dad are “real men”!
Thanks for the Godly encouragement and challenge to young men and women!
Fantastic!!
Brogan
February 4th, 2007 at 8:56 pm
What about the men who are godly but are witnessing and develloping a friendship with worldy guys. Is it wrong to burp around other guys or tell disgusting stories. I mean that could be part of witnessing? Tell me what you think, Ladies or Gentlemen?
February 15th, 2007 at 6:45 pm
I was so blessed to read this! And to see that it was not man’s preference that was backing it up, it was the Word of God that was the backup to these thoughts! God bless your ministry!
February 19th, 2007 at 3:08 pm
ouch……
I definatly have alot of work to do in my life and im gonna need GOD’s help (alot of it too)…
Guess i gotta put the Armor of Christ on and get rid of some sin!!
March 10th, 2007 at 9:42 am
I love this list! I have the Pdf version on my wall next to the “Real Women” these are both excellent!
I have to laugh(not mockingly, but sincerely) at the guys who are questioning burping!
A real man,”…has no desire to be gross in order to impress other men. He doesn’t burp, swear, or tell disgusting stories. (Proverbs 13:5, Ephesians 5:4)”
The word used in Proverbs is loathsome(to loathe; to dislike greatly, extreme disgust). Ok, so they are streching the verse a bit, but from a girls point of view..burping is disgusting, and in my case, causes me to loathe it. Whenever I see a guy acting like that, I class them as immature, and try to avoid them. I may be extreme, but to answer your question “could it be part of witnessing?” I will answer with several questions of my own. Why would you use it? Where is the gain? What does it prove? How can it express godliness?
Your sister in Christ,
Brittany
March 13th, 2007 at 6:16 pm
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March 16th, 2007 at 9:10 pm
to “Thought”: its wonderful for a guy to try to witness to friends, but theres no need to lower yourself in order to witness or build a friendship (unless u were a missionary in an ancient arabic culture where it was an insult not to burp after a meal haha). as Christians we dont need to conform to the standards of the world, even in order to witness. and heres my opinion simply as an 18 yr. old girl- ive been raised with 4 brothers and no sisters, so im definitely not overly-sensitive when it comes to burping, gross stories, etc. (ive heard it all over the years lol), but that kind of behavior by a guy in public is still a turn-off to me. like it or not, most girls find that gross, whether theyre used to it or not.
March 23rd, 2007 at 11:09 am
A real man doesn’t burp? And you want to be taken seriously?
If you believe that “God” created people in his image, and burping naturally happens as a result of gas building up in one’s system, then aren’t you denying your “God”liness if you don’t burp? If “God” created you, didn’t “he” create burping?
Lack of logic.
April 2nd, 2007 at 5:52 pm
1 peters 3:7, Even if he has to pull her back by her belt, he’s goin to try…
April 13th, 2007 at 6:23 pm
I believe the list refers to restraining from burping that is unecessary. Like when guys have burping contests. Of course it’s natural for us to burp and God made that for our comfort so we wouldn’t have to deal with the pressure that builds up in our bodies. It isn’t necessary for guys to let everyone in the room know who can burp the loudest. It is showing self-control and maturity when they make it as quiet and unoticable as possible.
May 8th, 2007 at 3:14 pm
Hello!! I agree with LB & john, This article makes a whole lot of sense to me.
Keep up the good work. AND GOD BLESS
May 11th, 2007 at 5:12 pm
Hey you’re right Andrew. This makes alot of sense.
GOD BLESS
June 1st, 2007 at 4:44 pm
Wow. to much to handle. It is really hard to do all of that. Well i guess we just take it a step at a time. Well I really enjoyed it.
~Stephen Field
June 19th, 2007 at 2:30 pm
Hey, what if you have just about given up hope of finding a man that even fits one charcteristic of that list? If there’s even one guy that fits two of thosethings Ill be impressed. But Ive given up hope about finding even one. So if you have encouragement please give it. I really am depressed about the way my generation acts like.
June 19th, 2007 at 2:57 pm
Emily: Take courage, sister. There are young men out there who meet nearly all of the characteristics on this list. We know several of them. And this big world, there are many. In fact, I think it is safe to say that there are many on this website itself.
June 19th, 2007 at 9:44 pm
This is a wonderful list! If there are men like that… well, that’s encouraging! Just keep waiting on God’s timing, right? Actually, I HAVE met young men like that… I visited BJU in March! They have quite a few
and they ALL open the doors for the ladies! It was an incredible experience *wistful sigh*…
jbtaylor says, “most of these verses were written for Christians of both sexes.” well it was nice to point that out! now we girls can print most of this list out for ourselves too!(lol) I hope we all realize that being a “real man” or a “real woman” has to do with being the person God created us to be rather than, for instance, just being a male. I’m sure most girls will agree with me that men are male enough already- they don’t have to work on their “maleness”- so that’s not what this list is about. It’s about being a Christian rather than a nonchristian or immature or cowardly. It’s about growing in Christ and being a responsible adult and a faithful servant and a Godly head of the household, someone whom your wife can look up to and respect. It’s about being “set apart” for God’s purpose and relying on Him and acting as He would want you to. It’s about being “salt and light” and “redeeming the times, for the days are evil” and embracing the leadership position and responsibilities God calls men to.
I have high ideals, y’see.
And NO, this is not about any one person I know… just in case any of you girls were wondering!
June 24th, 2007 at 6:13 pm
I haven’t read what makes a godly girl yet, but am very impressed by what I’ve read here. I have not discovered the right guy yet either, but am finding guys who meet more and more of these criteria the more I am around sincere Christian guys. It is extremely encouraging to me as I wait for God to show me the right one. And guys, we girls really do take notice when a guy acts/behaves with these qualities, especially as it often shows his Christian heart. Thank you to all you Godly men out there for setting an example for our generation and the younger guys, as well as raising the expectations for what a girl should look for and expect.
June 28th, 2007 at 9:10 pm
Tossed on a Link from LAF:
Wow. You guys really have something worth fighting for here. Believe me, i’ve been searching the web for a good couple of years and only recently started stumbling onto all these wonderfully God-fearing sites. The Holy Spirit is with you and “i feel a change in the winds, says i”
A young lady who is proud to NOT be a feminist.
July 27th, 2007 at 5:21 pm
I desire to be worthy of that kind of ‘Real Man’…!!
August 1st, 2007 at 11:48 am
i wish there was such thing as a “REAL” man but what the world is comeing to today there will be a very slim chance as this will be true to fine one of the discrption of this list!!!!!!!!
August 15th, 2007 at 6:31 am
I dunno, myrandia… there seem to be a few in my church! (Well, maybe not allllll those characteristics….)
August 24th, 2007 at 4:18 pm
wow I feel like Ive failed!!!
September 2nd, 2007 at 8:08 am
“He is polite and shows women honor in everyday things such as opening doors, etc. (1 Peter 3:7)”
The HUGE problem here is unseen.
In the dating world you have 2 spectrums: “Nice guys” and “bad boys”
the female attraction to the bad-boy is not of any importance to my point so I will jump straight into the Nice-guy TRAP.
Guys think “women want a ‘nice-guy’…ok, I will be th NICEST GUY and treat her SO WELL that there will be NO REASON for her to NOT like me”
So the guy goes ahead and is totally nice to her. OVERLY nice. This behaviour is repulsive to women because they cant help but ask themselves “why is this guy being so nice?” In one case I know of a guy that was dating a woman whom he considered “way out of his league” so his indifference towards her attracted her: they dated.
He got insecure about the stability of the relationship so he figured that treating her really nice would ensure that she would stay with him.
She dumped him saying “You’ve changed. you’re not the guy I was attracted too.”
his response: “Im sorry, what have I done wrong? what do you want me to do to make it right?”
her response: “THAT! that right there is what you’re doing wrong!”
“nice guys finish last.”
September 19th, 2007 at 9:18 am
Hey Mark,
I know some times it may seem like, “the nice guys finish last” but, then if this girl left that guy, that could be just a way Gods saying, hold on wait a minute, it’s not my timing yet, just wait for me. She might not have been the one.
I know in our youth group, there are a few girls that just can’t stand it when the guys open a door for them, or stand up, and let them set down, but there are still a few of us girls that like it. Women should enjoy being women. My brother says to me somtimes I just don’t understand i open a door for a girl, and they just glare at me. I keep telling him just keep doing it cause i know i like it, and i know there are other girls out there that do to.
September 24th, 2007 at 7:40 pm
I think some of what you’re saying Mark is attributed to your perception of that kind of guy being weak. There is a different between being nice and being weak. Weak is not having integrity, honor, or credibility, or being lazy. You get the point. I seem to remember some other historical figure who was pretty nice… Oh Yeah! His name was Jesus. And he is the model we’re supposed to follow. Whenever you find yourself asking questions like this, go back to the bible and look at Jesus’ actions. It certainly can’t hurt.
September 26th, 2007 at 9:27 am
Wow! I cannot wait to meet a guy like that. On the other hand this really opens my eyes to what I need to be like. You can always change a grow, right?
September 26th, 2007 at 11:40 am
so where are these young men hiding? why am I the one sitting here stuck with a broken heart?? all the guys I know just hurt me… is there really one like that? I don’t know if I can believe that. With all the pain I’ve gone through, how do I know that there is seriously a guy like that and one for me?? Why would I deserve that kind of guy?
just thoughts…
September 26th, 2007 at 1:03 pm
There is a remnant, Crissy. I know, because I’ve met a lot of them. They aren’t perfect, but they are striving to be real men and making very real progress. Ultimately, girls aren’t supposed to put their trust in any guys and guys aren’t supposed to put their trust in any girls — you’ll always be disappointed. But you can trust God living in guys who are striving to follow Him and girls who are striving to do the same.
September 27th, 2007 at 9:24 am
It’s just really hard to see that when I’m in so much pain… but thank you for the encouragement…
October 15th, 2007 at 10:02 pm
…has no desire to be gross in order to impress other men. He doesn’t burp, swear, or tell disgusting stories. (Proverbs 13:5, Ephesians 5:4)
…expresses himself with intelligent words rather than using “street talk”. (Proverbs 17:20, Titus 2:6-8, 1 Peter 4:11, Ephesians 4:29)
I appreciate you writing this, it’s a good idea. Almost all of your definitions of “A real man” have a ton of truth and goodness in them that I think God would be pleased with and are Biblical. However, I personally am troubled by parts the above two defintions.
Such as, “doesn’t burp” and “street talk”. To me burping is a very natural occurance, both men and women need to relieve that from their stomachs. Yes, it is gross when people do it right by you or make it purposefully disgusting, but I seriously don’t think that would make them less of a Godly man. Maybe that defintion would fall under personal preference for a girl when making a thought out list of what SHE personally is looking for in a husband. I in fact have made such a list of standards, but some of them are my own personal preference, desires that God has specifically placed in my heart.
As a note, I of course agree that swearing and telling impure stories are not God pleasing.
As for “expresses himself with intelligent words rather than using “street talk”, in my opinion that would fall under personal preference also. I hold this view point for the reason that I know young men who love Jesus and strive to follow him who from the inner city and use street talk. I spent part of my childhood in the inner city, in fact my parents were the pastors of a small inner city church so I know what street talk is, some is bad if used with explitives but regular street talk is just another way of communicating. Yes, it would not fall under “intelligent speach”, but it’s not wrong and by the way, there are a whole lot of people how aren’t learned in the world who love God and don’t speak intelligently, mostly underprivaleged people in America and all over the world.
Poverty Fact from: http://www.globalissues.org/TradeRelated/Facts.asp
Nearly a billion people entered the 21st century unable to read a book or sign their names. source 3
I understand some times “street talk” can annoy and some times when used it’s coming from people who know how to speak intelligently, but I seriously doubt this act makes them less of a man.
Sincerely,
A Child of the King
October 18th, 2007 at 8:21 pm
Amen!!
November 16th, 2007 at 8:21 pm
This is so encouraging. And I really understand how all you disappointed sisters feel. I feel the same way. Thanks so much to all you guys who love Jesus more than any girl; you do us girls a big favor while you’re at it.
November 23rd, 2007 at 9:59 am
in reply to frannie’s comment,
Thank you! I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH WHAT YOU SAY. In many cultures it is POLITE to burp after a meal and it is not polite to let a woman enter through a door before a man, men have to proceed the woman in order to check for danger! I have no problem with “street talk” that is completely a personal preference. In many ministries it is vital that the christian workers know the local “street talk” in order to communicate.
January 6th, 2008 at 3:28 pm
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…has no desire to be gross in order to impress other men. He doesn’t burp, swear, or tell disgusting stories. (Proverbs 13:5, Ephesians 5:4)
R THESE FEMINISTIC IDEAS OR IS THE GIRLS LIST JUST AS TOUGH I GUESS ILL FIND OUT
January 15th, 2008 at 9:50 am
I’ve found that being disgusting and rude is not a quality I would want in any of my friends. I’ve had the hardest time trying to find what I labeled as a “true” friend. Someone I could rely on, someone to be there for me when I need them most, someone to listen, offer a helping hand, to guide me, and to just be a friend. Most importantly, not to care about what the world thinks about them. I found that I was looking to hard, and instead of trying to find that friend, I could be that friend. My goal for my life is to live in God’s standards, with His guidelines, and to be positive to all around me, and to be able to offer a listening ear or a helping hand at all times. These goals don’t seem very high, but they are definietely hard to maintain. People will never understand why we choose to follow God. John 3:17 (?) “For I chose you out of the world, therefore, since the world hates me, you also will be hated for my sake.” (Not an exact translation!!!) So why are we timid? Just step up to the plate and let God lead!
January 20th, 2008 at 8:47 pm
These are all admirable traits (hypothetically), and we as men should all strive to achieve them. I have known several solid gusy like this, and I am astounded that girls pay them no attention. At all. I am by no means perfect myself, but I also notice that even when I have my act together, character doesn’t mean crap to girls. I still keep being a man of God as my goal, but I frequently give up on the kind of love all of you like to fantasize about. In my experience, the guy’s character has nothing to do with getting girls. They connect with whoever gives them the biggest emotional rush, regardless of virtue. Maybe someone else has a different viewpoint.
January 20th, 2008 at 8:53 pm
Also, what’s the deal with no long hair? Since when did being a Godly man have an accompanying fashion prerequisite? I would have to say that Sampson was pretty studly and he HAD to have long hair for it to work.
January 29th, 2008 at 12:00 pm
Way to pick and choose, don’t forget your bible also wants men to rule their women as property, keep them sequestered and ignorant in the house, and to stone their women to death if they speak in church(at that time temple as Christians just Copied their rules and early scripture from Judaism). If that is a real man i am proud to be a non-believer in such a hypocritical sect. Not to mention i am happy to say my father and i have figured out to be a good man without blindly following the rantings of superstitious ancients who thought burning bushes gave commands and that trumpets can bring city walls down. Think for yourselves for once, but be careful you may just realize that religion is all about controlling the weak minded.
January 29th, 2008 at 12:21 pm
^^^^^^^
What he said
January 29th, 2008 at 1:15 pm
Hey there, Mr. Wow… Would you mind showing us where the Bible says that men should rule women as property, keep them ignorant and sequestered in the house, or stone them if they speak in church? Because I’ve read the Bible many times, and I’ve never seen those verses. Neither has anyone else I know. If you’d like a Biblical view of men and women, I’d encourage you to read this post. Thanks for commenting.
January 29th, 2008 at 1:35 pm
Just an interesting fact. Were any of you aware that through out history, wherever Judaism and Christianity went, womens rights improved greatly. Study your history and you will see that Christianity (and the men and women who followed it closely) always led the way in both culture improvement and scientific advancement. Those who follow the tenets of Christianity have always been the heart beat of life in this world (not including those who used it for political gain). Of course, you better read your history quick, because it is being rewritten by those who hate God and hate those who love him. The Bible tells us in Corinthians that all that we build in Christ will be tested by fire. If you want to live for Christ, then you better be ready for fire. If you are going to stay pure, then you better be ready to be tested by the fires of persecution and trial. Make firm choices and hold on to your faith. God bless all of you!!!!!!!!
January 29th, 2008 at 2:06 pm
This made me break down in tears, thinking of my short-comings when looking for a Godly relationship, or a Godly boyfriend [future husband]. Made me realize that these, all the things I Want in a relationship, all the characteristics I want the Man of God I marry to have, have been watered down and perverted by the worlds standards.
Thank you for opening my eyes.
I’m scared to read the “A Real Woman” list, but I can’t wait for it.
January 30th, 2008 at 8:40 am
Thanks for the list, although I think that real men do burp and tell gross stories sometimes, and can still be godly. I mean, God made slugs, and they’re pretty gross. Add to list the joy that God gifts to a godly man, Psalm 126:2&3.
February 4th, 2008 at 9:56 am
Hm. Interesting list. These are some high standards. I’m not too sure about the theological accuracy of the burping scripture reference- I thought everyone burped! (Oh no, maybe somethings’ wrong with me then!)
I think that as long as this is held as the apirations of a young man, then this is good. But also, it needs to be recognized that godly young men won’t live up to this list 100% of the time. I do think young women deserve the bes, but at the same time, those “best” are being formed. I doubt that one will ever find a young man that exhibits all of these. As long as he’s growing in these areas, I think that this is fine. Good work.
February 4th, 2008 at 3:57 pm
While I think this list has noble aspirations, its also important to remember the context of the scripture you pull it out of. In many Asian cultures, it’s good manners to burp, and by not doing so a young Asian christian would be insulting his host, which is also against scripture. Don’t forget that many of the allusions and mannerisms in the Bible are cultural, and while it’s possible to translate most of these to everyday life, it’s also impossible to expect the bible to be a cookiecutter stencil you can push onto any culture. Think of the motives behind the statements and translate these, instread.
February 5th, 2008 at 2:58 pm
I think reaching for the highest expectations is what God intended for us. All of those qualities that were listed for real men are amazing I think, and I wish that I could meet more guys who had even half of those. I think that it isn’t as rare as we might think though to find a guy who possesses many of those gifts from God and who truly has pure intentions and a Christ-like heart. I would respect a guy even if he sought to live after a couple of those on that list.
February 11th, 2008 at 2:20 pm
I want a husband that has athoritie over me in a way that I can be respected in love.Alex and Brett,I have a friend who has been praying for a good Christian husband.There is a guy who is a christian and is pashionate about the same stuff.They’ve never met.She is 13.And he lives in Atlanta,and she is moving to Indiana.Do you have any advice?-your sister in Christ, Hannah
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February 11th, 2008 at 8:06 pm
Yeah, I used to be that guy until I realized that women liked to talk to me them go out and date the jerks. I became a jerk myself and was much happier
February 14th, 2008 at 11:30 am
Frannie and Jessica:
The reason why belching loudly [and making a show of it] is improper is because it shows a great need for the young man to be the center of attention in a group of people. Yes, you are correct in saying that in some cultures burping after a pleasant meal is polite. However, if the culture in which you are living does not specifically express this tradition in day-to-day life, it is probably best left undone. It otherwise shows self-centeredness and a need for constant attention (because if a guy burps overly-obnoxiously loud on a regular basis, the realization of his apparently starved-for-attention-attitude seems makes itself crudely known).
Burping is definitely NOT the problem. As someone mentioned above, it is a God-made process necessary to relieve uncomfortable pressures in our digestive systems. Making a show of belching, however, is rude.
Of course, that issue is not JUST limited to burping. Many things can become an issue in our lives when used by us to constantly be the center of the limelight.
Also, (in response to the men-should-walk-in-front-of-women-to-check-for-danger statement) that sort of thing is VERY rarely necessary in America because we do not live in a culture that shows the need for the protection of women everywhere they go. America, for the most part, is a very safe place to be. Nearly all of us females can walk out the door of our houses, or walk out of a grocery store, and not worry that we’re going to need protecting everywhere we step. However, I do agree that in some nations where there is political unrest, I could see the need for a man to go ahead and make sure it is safe.
In His Service,
~Kirsten A. Gruber
February 14th, 2008 at 11:37 am
5k3pt1 { :
It sounds as if the kinds of girls you describe are not the kind of girls you would want to be around anyway. However, that is not the point I am trying to make. Perhaps you should rethink the scenario of “going out” with someone. Then you wouldn’t have to worry about finding the “right one,” because when it’s time, God will show you who they are. Being brothers and sisters in Christ until that time ensures you don’t have to deal with the hurtful rejection one feels when a date goes sour or when there is a painful breakup. Until such a time as God brings us together with our husband or wife, we should focus our attention on Him, and focus on hearing His voice, and His direction. Getting to know Him better, and growing closer.
Hair length is a relative and culture-based thing. Almost all Old and New Testament men had hair that we would consider to be “long.” There were some extremes, such as Samson, who was a Nazarite at birth. Most Nazarite vows include such things as 1) Drinking no wine [including products made with grapes]; 2) Abstaining from touching a dead body of any kind [even a close relative’s], human or not; and 3) Refusing to cut the hair or shave the head. In Samson’s case, his mother did not even drink wine during the pregnancy [and back then the wine would have been more sanitary than the water, since the wine was fermented] and made a solemn covenant with the Lord to not shave baby Samson’s hair when he was little. At the other extreme, there were the four men who Paul took to the temple in Acts 21. They shaved their heads with a vow to God. 5k3pt1 {, are you planning to take one of these vows?
In His Service,
~Kirsten A. Gruber
February 14th, 2008 at 11:38 am
5k3pt1 {: Just for the record, I was kidding about that last part…
February 15th, 2008 at 8:23 pm
Oh, puhleeeeaaaase! I admire most of the attributes on this list, and find them attractive in men. I believe, however, that people can have many of these attributes without believing in God or even the Judeo-Christian concept of God. I also believe that religious people, specifically Christians, do not have the market cornered on morality or ethics.
March 4th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
WOW!!! That is a real wake-up call to us guys - thanks for posting this guys and gals
April 8th, 2008 at 5:51 pm
Kristen:
I don’t recall ever mentioning ‘going out’ or finding the ‘right one’. I was simply stating my observations. I appreciate your input, and generally agree with it.
However, I do not think it wrong for guys and girls to date. It shows you what qualities you really do or do not want in your future spouse, and gives valuable experience with the opposite sex. As long as you don’t make it too serious it shouldn’t be a big deal. I also still think that Christ should be our first priority.
My point was that (correct me if I’m wrong) girls, Christian or heathen, are emotionally driven. Having good character is a bonus but will not get a guy anywhere if the girl isn’t already emotionally attracted to him. If he doesn’t “make her heart flutter”, to use corn-laden language, he is essentially SOL. It’s similar to the way guys work. A girl can be as nice and Godly as possible, but a guy needs to be physically attracted to her for it to work. That’s just our M.O.
All that to say, don’t let girls be your motivation for being a man of character. It doesn’t work. If you aim to be a Godly man, God better be your only motivation for doing so.
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April 30th, 2008 at 11:14 am
So far I have read one post and I already love what you guys are doing. They are really high standerds and that is what we all need to strive for. I am looking forward to reading the post on real women. It should be very interesting to see how much us girls should strive for!
Kayla
By the way, I really am thankful that my friend told me about what you were doing.
May 2nd, 2008 at 1:47 pm
That was really cool. It is definitely something my brithers need to see!
May 2nd, 2008 at 1:48 pm
sorry brothers !
May 3rd, 2008 at 7:37 pm
This is quite a high standard being requested. And all the better for hight of the bar! Every standard is based with scripture, so as far as I am concerned, there is no arguing with it. I think it is wonderful that it is a standard that was composed by girls. It really seems that a lot of the standards included are not even looked for by girls in popular culture. A lot of the comments have been encouragement to girls that guys like these do exist, but I think is is just as important that the guys remember that there are girls out there with these standards.
May 13th, 2008 at 1:57 pm
Thats really cool guys im gonna show it to my brothers lol
May 16th, 2008 at 10:23 am
A real man…..
adheres to all these rules, yet wears his hair long, lines his eyes with dark mascara, and listens to punk, grunge, and shock rock.
He protests against the war and against the murder of forests.
May 22nd, 2008 at 1:28 pm
He’s going to be absolutely perfect and wonderful! I can’t wait to meet him:)
Brianna
May 25th, 2008 at 12:16 pm
B — “absolutely perfect”? you won’t meet him, ever. The only perfect man to ever live is Jesus. You can meet a man who’s striving, and working towards being more Christ-like, but don’t search for Mr. Perfect, cause he doesn’t exist. (David was an adulterer, Moses had a deadly temper that eventually kept him from God’s promise, Isaiah pretty much whined, Peter denied his Savior, Saul/Paul killed people before coming to know Christ, etc. we’re all human here)
I apologize for my somewhat vicious pessimism (it’s what I do
devil’s advocate), but your man will be just as human as you are. And to Hannah, you won’t be worthy, because on our best day, we’re not “worthy” of the worst this world has to offer. That’s why grace is an amazing factor in our Christian lives. Don’t let it discourage you! God help me, I don’t want a guy who makes me feel as if I have to work to deserve him, or I’m somehow not good enough because I’ve made more mistakes or haven’t achieved as many “list qualities” (and vice versa). The running theme of the Bible is God looks at the heart. (1 Samuel 16:7)
Can I throw out a warning? (to whoever happens across this in the coming months and actually scrolls to the bottom)
These are great lists to challenge ourselves with, and measures for the Christ-likeness of someone you’re pursuing/want to pursue/be pursued by. But no one will ever meet all of them, or even meet most of them, perfectly. So yes, don’t settle and all that, but don’t demand perfection. Just someone who loves their Lord more than they’ll ever love you. Everything else will fall into place. (again, the heart)
(side note to guys: few things are more attractive than a man who isn’t afraid to step up and lead, and who openly worships God. A desire to serve Christ and respect for women are givens, as in absolutely required. Of course, 5k3pt1{ has a point: “All that to say, don’t let girls be your motivation for being a man of character. It doesn’t work. If you aim to be a Godly man, God better be your only motivation for doing so.” You should desire to be Christ-like so as to best serve those in your life, but this desire kinda circles back to God. He’s pretty great, isn’t He?)
Oh yeah, and look up the verses. As people have noted, the comments that go with them are not verbatim from the Bible, and most of the references from both lists apply to both sexes.
I love how much debate has gone on in the 2 years since these were posted. It’s all us newcomers that keep stirring things up
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May 29th, 2008 at 8:03 pm
Just a thought i wanted to put in here. Now should it matter what a girl wants in a man? Cause if you noticed they used all Biblical references. That would tell me thats what God wants from us Men, and if a girl is not attracted to a Godily man then wanted that be considered unequally yoked?
May 29th, 2008 at 8:05 pm
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May 31st, 2008 at 10:03 am
Wow! i can’t wait to find someone like that! =)
June 16th, 2008 at 10:20 am
Great post!
I know this doesn’t have a scripture reference, but I like to aply it to all the guys I meet, it goes something like this: “Whatch how a man treats his elders, children and animals. It’s a great way to find out about his values.” I can’t remember exactly where I heard it, who from or when, but it sure has stuck with me for a while!
June 16th, 2008 at 3:35 pm
Really good, let us girls make sure we honor the list the things we ask for and wait for those guys to come along. Not settle for less or seek only those who look the part but if we want or ask for a certain thing then be patient as God brings him to us. because those who “seek beauty lose love, but those who seek love, find beauty…”-?
June 17th, 2008 at 8:54 pm
RSH
I agree completly with what you said. God didnt create us to follow a list of expectations, he made us to live a life of adventure with him as our guide, protector, and companion. Now that is not to say that we shouldint strive to live up to these expectations, I think this is a great post, but to be a good man you have to be close to God, not from striving to live up to a peice of paper. Get close to God and these thing will come after, not before.
That’s not to say that once you get close to God you will live up to all these things(NO way) but like my Dad likes to say, “a dog on the hunt doesent know it has fleas.” I think we get bogged down sometimes into thinking that the whole point is to bless us, if God wanted to bless us he would just kill us, and we would be with him in heaven, like John says “to die for me is to gain”, and this to me is a list of things to do if you want to be blessed. When its not about us being perect, that will never happen, its about living our lives with God.
One other thing I would like to thank the girls who made this blog for being interested in trying to help us be Godly men, but it cannot come from you. You cannot ever fully understand a man, just like I(as a man) will never fully understand a woman, God made us differently. Men need to learn what it means to be a man from other men, just as women need to learn from women, that doesent mean that we are totally segregated, or that you cannot offer advice or instruction, but you cannot tell a boy how to become a man, or tell him completely what a man is. no girl, or woman can not fully understand the heart of a man, what it means to be a man. So I appretiate the effort you put into it but you cannot turn a boy into a man, that needs to happen from another man, hopefully his father.
If anyone wants to know what it means to be a man, and how to be a Godly man, I would strongly recomend the book “Wild at Heart”. John Eldridge is a man who I believe was brought up to preach this message, just as Alex and Brent were brought up to tell how to do hard things(Loved your book by the way guys, awsome). Now even though this book is more for adult men who have lost there heart, it can show you the path to manhood, by showing you what makes up a man, you will be able to be a man. http://www.ransomedheart.com/store/detail.aspx?ID=96 (sorry i dont know how to create a link hopefully you can copy this and paste it in the search box)
June 25th, 2008 at 8:36 am
Oh dear, my poor girlfriend…
June 28th, 2008 at 1:54 pm
All you guys who say it’s going to be difficult to live up to this list, it will be. But then, we’ll be “doing hard things,” right?
July 3rd, 2008 at 4:58 am
Wow, I’ve only meet one guy with half these qualitys, and he hapens to be my dad! I can’t wait ’till I find a guy that lives like this! =)
July 16th, 2008 at 10:38 pm
This is convicting. I love how it comes straight from the Bible. Jesus was the only one who could and can fulfill all of these attributes, but as D. Hayes says, we still need to attempt to stick to these “doing hard things”
July 16th, 2008 at 10:40 pm
actually I guess some men are like this, but there are very few…
July 17th, 2008 at 6:09 pm
I love it! The terms of a real man and it comes from the bible. It gives you th right idea on what young ladies like myself should be looking for!
July 22nd, 2008 at 1:17 pm
I’m so blessed to actually know some guys like that. They are very dear to me as brothers and encouragers in Christ, and fellow workers in God’s kingdom. Guys: DO NOT give up! You may not immiediately see the fruits of your labor, but there are still those of us who appreciate you more than we can say.
Your grateful sister in Christ,
Rebecca
July 22nd, 2008 at 4:55 pm
That was good; I’ll have to print that off.
July 24th, 2008 at 7:49 pm
I like how the “Real men” have pictures of actual men, and the “Women’s blog” has pictures of 1800’s Stepford wives. That’s not shovenistic at all?
July 27th, 2008 at 9:24 am
that was really great.
shalom!
July 29th, 2008 at 9:06 pm
Wow, it’s amazing to see how many people are still influenced by what God has said through these girls. I agree that part of this had some opinionation thrown in but they were trying to target the guys motive not the action (I’m talking about the burping part, the long-hair vs. short hair part, and the opening-doors part). The key point is respect and humility. As for those atheists who choose to post your comments, why bother? But, like everyone else has said, very nice work. Keep on glorifying God.
August 6th, 2008 at 10:38 am
I’m very impressed with this list, and that’s exactly what I will be looking for in a husband when I’m older, since I don’t believe fourteen is a good time to get too serious! So, to all you guys aout there, you’ve got quite the challenge going, and in the meanwhile, we ladies will be having quite the challenge ourselves. Romans 12:1&2 can help get you motivated for this: “Therefore, I urge you brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God–this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of you mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is–his good, pleasing, and perfect will.”
August 9th, 2008 at 9:41 pm
Thanks guys (and girls) I have always wondered what characteristics girls want to see in young men
August 12th, 2008 at 4:23 pm
This is a fine list, useful for young women when evaluating a possible suitor.
However, it isn’t terribly helpful for young men; quite the opposite. A real man will never use a woman’s list as the standard for his character. Young men, if you want to know what a real man is, ask your fathers, your uncles, your grandfathers, your pastors. Ask the man God sends to you to be a father to you if you have no father. Ask God yourself. Take the question to His Word and ask it there.
Please, please, please do not check off every item on a woman-approved list of good traits and conclude this makes you a real man. A woman needs a real man for a husband, but she cannot make you a real man or even determine for you when you have become one. To become merely what she requires is to miss entirely the becoming of what she ought to have.
August 14th, 2008 at 1:36 pm
Wow…
August 16th, 2008 at 1:18 am
WOW! praise the Lord. I think all men should do such a thing. I agree that the all around purpose’s for me is to glorify the God that created Him, and everything will come after that.
August 16th, 2008 at 1:25 am
This is incredible! When it is time for a lady to look for the man God has provided, this kind of man will stand out in contrast to the man the world wants for you. All men should seek to follow Christ’s example and follow the Father’s guidances in The Bible alone.
August 24th, 2008 at 12:47 pm
That is AMAZING!!!…
August 29th, 2008 at 9:32 am
You boys are doing a great job.Keep up the good work.
September 3rd, 2008 at 12:34 pm
Hey people I’ve got a question.. I’m a outgoing person and, quite by accident girls think I’m flirting with them and I get asked if I like them, I don’t flirt on propose (at least 80 percent of the time) I’ve tried to back off and be less outgoing, but I felt totally empty inside and became depressed for like a whole day! Now to the object of the paragraph, I’ve heard everyone I know tell me that its impossible to be good friends with girls except your wife, I refuse to believe this but I don’t want to hurt my “sisters” in christ at the same time. What shall this poor fellow do?
~Distraught Friend
September 5th, 2008 at 11:02 pm
Amos S: I just read the list and it is good. I have been working on my list since last year after a pretty hard break up of a 4 year realationship (3 yrs of which I was engaged). Honestly God is what helped me get through this hard time. My friend bought me the books by Joshua Harris “I kissed dating goodbye” and “Boy meets girl” they really helped me visualize what God wants us to be like and how to act with our brothers and sisters in christ. In my opinion of what I have learned you can be good friends with the oposite sex, just make sure you dont lead them to think otherwise. Girs are very sensitive beings they think with their emotions alot so be careful with things you tell them, they may be hurt if they think you like them and you really don’t. I have guy friends at church one of which is my bestfriend (ofcourse he is 17 & im 23 so we definitely dont like each other). I make sure that my attitude does not lead men at church to think otherwise. Amos I dont know your age but if you are aleady a teen for sure I recomend for you to read these 2 books by Joshua Harris they have great advise and scripture. God Bless.
September 6th, 2008 at 1:24 pm
To Amos; Hey man I totally agree with Brenda, If you have not read the I kissed dating good bye, by Josh Harris I would totally recommed it to you. I myself work at Chick-fil-A, and a lot of the people I work with think I am weird bc I have never gone out with a girl. A lot of them are saying just what you said. Its hard to be just friends with a girl. But let me tell you, it is hard. But through the grace of God we can prevail. I think if you, can read the book, it will help you be a outgoing person, to the opposite sex, without making them feel like your flurting.
And as to the other book Boy meets Girl. I just bought it like a month ago to read it, and my Dad wanted to see one night, and he hasn’t given it back. But I heard it was really good, which is not a surprise to me.
September 8th, 2008 at 2:53 pm
That list sets a very high bar. Hopefully I’ll be able to jump it someday, and stop failing miserably. I’d like to help you, Amos, but I can’t. I haven’t had experience with that sort of thing.
September 8th, 2008 at 3:00 pm
To “the dead”: where’s the Scripture reference for all that stuff? The things on the list have references to the Scriptures, but I don’t think the Bible says anything about grunge and anti-war efforts. If you find Bible passages that speak positvely (or at all, for that matter) about the things you listed, let me know.
September 10th, 2008 at 9:21 pm
WOW… i realy hope i can find a guy like that, i deffinently KNOW a guy like that… and i realy like him, but i dont know if he likes me.. totaly off subject, enyhew… ya, this is great!
September 22nd, 2008 at 2:22 pm
this is amazing. every single guy on the planet needs to read this about 50 times. i so hope God blesses me with a guy like this. like i said, amazing.
September 28th, 2008 at 12:34 pm
WOW. Well, you jst ruled out a LOT of the guys I know, including the ones who have expressed romantic interest in me. where do we find these guys? i already know several good, christian guys. unfortunately, most of them are my cousins. It seems that I cannot find a single guy that’s at all interested in me that’s also a christian. any words of encouragement?
October 7th, 2008 at 7:03 pm
To Ladies:
Seek God and He WILL bring you and godly ‘real man’ to marry. Don’t worry, rather wait on the lord. There have been many young men who have sought my heart BUT they were not seeking God and there lives didn’t line up with the Word of God. God commands us not to be yoked together with unbelievers (2 Corinthians 6:14) That means we are not to marry an unbeliever. God wants us to obey Him and helps us to obey Him. So do give up.
Also check out 1 Corinthians 7:32-35. Being single is a blessing, being married is also a blessing. So be content with the season of life you are in. (1 Timothy 6:6)
Read Proverbs 31 and let God work in you. now is the time to prepare for raising a family. Instead of worrying about getting married and who your going to marry, learn to cook, bake, clean, take care of kids, and to take care of your self, ’cause how can you take care of a family if you can’t take care of yourself? And something else to think about, if you don’t make your bed each morning, put your clothes away, and brush your teeth then you ARE NOT READY TO RAISE A FAMILY.
October 9th, 2008 at 9:47 am
I Don’t know but I was checking on some of the bible scriptures quoted. To me it seems like they don’t coreespond with the text or somewhat.
October 12th, 2008 at 4:29 pm
AJL, it’s probably because y’all use different Bibles. I for one use the KJV, and the NIV (which I call NonInspiredVersion) is very different from the KJV. There are entire passages that are not the same in any manner.
October 16th, 2008 at 7:51 pm
I think this is the important I have heard in awhile. there are some scriptures, that I am going to print this off and tape it to my wall. I wish everyone one would look at this.
Guys i think this important stuff these girls are telling us. I say we should try to follow as much as we can.
October 26th, 2008 at 11:15 am
Great list!!!
I have to say, it seems impossible to find a guy like that in this messed up world. But I’m trying as hard as I can to keep my focus on God and his plan for my life, so I won’t get tangled in the sin of the world. Guys, DON’T GIVE UP!! Whether girls like or dislike you when you strive to be Godly, only means that she may not be the one for you. He will bless you with your future wife when He knows you are ready.
I am homeschooled and most of my friends are at my church, but even the guys who claim to be Christians don’t even seem to be striving to be Godly! In fact, many are making horrible choices and ignore those who are trying to help them. I don’t know how, or when, I’ll meet my future husband, but I definitely hope he matches most of what’s on this list.
Oh! And I’m very proud of all the guys who have complimmented this list! Yay! God Bless You!!!!
His Faithful Servant, Carli
October 27th, 2008 at 4:54 am
key player…
inelegant transparently bangle Markovian …
November 8th, 2008 at 7:13 am
don’t worry, all you guys out there… we’re praying for you! hold onto God.
November 9th, 2008 at 8:55 pm
i use this as a “ideal husband” list - a set of guidelines that I want my future husband to have and grow in. Thankfully, lots of my guyfriends are amazing at most of these, and are only lacking in a few… Guys from SGC, Titusville: Thank you so much for being the best friends in the world. You respect and encourage me daily. Thanks for being a “real man” I love you, bros!
November 10th, 2008 at 9:59 am
awesome awesome awesome awesome blog post! I plan to print htis off and send one to my brother at college!
November 12th, 2008 at 7:37 pm
That is so true. I can’t wait to meet a real man!!!!!