Comments on: Three Teens Define “A Real Woman”

By: Lianna

Lianna — Thu, 04 Feb 2010 14:56:44 +0000

This is a great way to check the list of what we, as women and sisters of Christ, are to do not only for ourselves and the others around us, but for God too. He is watching everything we do and wants us to be the best that we can be while still honoring Him in all that we do and say. These “Three Teens” are great guidelines for every girl, though many who do not know Christ may not understand. Yet they are still good enough for, in my opinion, all girls and women to comprehend. Although some of them are difficult, if I might say for example the verse: “…uses her years of singleness to seek and serve God without distraction, and is content to leave the details of her future to Him.” (Psalm 73:25, Philippians 4:11) It is not that it isn’t clear in the instructions, but I don’t know how to live without somehow being ‘distracted’ by the people and things we see around us. This, I believe, is much harder nowadays than it was some thousand years ago, yet it’s still the same situation.
As reading through some of the comments above, I realized that I am not the only one in this world striving to be the child of God that I was created to be. But it is still not a piece of cake; you’ve gotta actually try to be who you really feel God is calling you to be. He made you the way you are, yet the world has a great influence over our lives through TV shows/movies, music all the way to our friends and family. But with God’s help, perseverance and patience, we can be who we are meant to be.
Unfortunately this is easier said than done. If you’re a really bad procrastinator, as I am, then you’ll find it more difficult to actually start what you plan to and it’s not always easy to do it. But that one little push by a friend, from family or the Bible can really help you get going. Also, if you find it hard to stay focused on one thing for a long period of time, also like me, keeping on track with what you intended to strive for in the first place will also be a challenge, but: “…with man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” (Matthew 19:26)
I’ve believed this to be true for most of my life, yet it always seems to get me that I want to do something on my own; to see if I can really have independence and true success away from God, though I know in my heart that I cannot. He is the only thing that can lead me to my full potential and fulfillment; but I am the only thing blocking my way and path to doing so with Him. I know that I’m not the only person out here who feels like this, even though it seems like it where I am at this point (emotionally and geographically, lol) and hopefully this has helped somebody…
[I’ve never actually posted something on a website or anything before...I hope this wasn’t too long or too outgoing for anyone. It’s simply my opinion and I figured that I could, at least once, get it out there. But to ask just one question: how can I change in a way that I am closer with God and become “A Real Woman”, yet still keep the relationships I have with my friends in order to, someday, show them the light?]

By: Dempsey

Dempsey — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 23:13:47 +0000

sorry about the spelling up there ya’ll can still read it

By: Dempsey

Dempsey — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 23:12:45 +0000

the fuuny thing, is a “real girl” is all of that which is living a biblical life style. thing about that. so a girl that apels to right and gody men or teenager is a girl that lives by a biblical life style. and that true. really. hey if ya’ll don’t belive me look at a girl who lives a culture life style: feminest Por-choise and like pregnate before marrige

By: Dempsey

Dempsey — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 23:09:45 +0000

By: Tatum

Tatum — Fri, 29 Jan 2010 20:05:55 +0000

that’s really hard! to speak out loudly for Jesus, but to not speak loudly about yourself. i’m definitely working on that! thanks Alex and Brett for posting that! it really helps to know what i should strive to be as a woman of God.

By: Abby

Abby — Wed, 20 Jan 2010 22:08:39 +0000

hey Anna
I’m certainly NOT alex or Brett, but I think I might have an answer:
This is talking about how you portray yourself to the outside world. Are you characterized as someone who is boistrous and “loud” in what you wear, say, and act? This isn’t just talking about speech. If you have a passion for other’s and for a particular goal, you do indeed need to speak out — but in a way that does not portray you as loud or boistrus. So sorry if this is sounding all mixed up, hope it helps!
<3 Abby

By: Anna R.

Anna R. — Tue, 19 Jan 2010 00:05:35 +0000

Wonderful. So good to see clearly God’s will for a true woman. One question, about the “quiet”? I just would like to know what that means really? For example, what about passion God gives us, not romantic passion, but passion for the Lord’s work and wanting to reach out and spur others on?

By: Abby

Abby — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 14:30:18 +0000

Dear Alex& Brett :
First of all, thank you so much for this article! By far it is my favorite on y’all’s site I have a really quick question –> (and i know you both are extremly busy, BUT) There is a t-shirt contest going on at our homeschool group. I would love to use as much of this article that I can on the t-shirt, with the actual scripture underneath in italics. I can not give my real e-mail out, so therefore you can e-mail me the go-ahead to the e-mail of my comment, but it will not get to me so sorry - security. But you can leave me a comment below mine (please).
thanks ever so much!
MUCH love in christ —
abby Inns

By: Shane Latham

Shane Latham — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 13:19:52 +0000

Hey guys, great list. While I am in a season of singleness and am focused on ministry right now, I pray every day that I will find a godly woman like this. And girls, if you think that living up to this list is restrictive or narrow or dorky or something, you should know that plenty of serious Christian guys out there do find a woman living out these ideals to be extremely attractive! Obviously, I’m not advocating you follow this list just to impress guys…the spiritual rewards and increased intimacy in your relationship with God for adhering to many of these principles is a tremendous reward in itself. Keep up the great work ladies, we men are praying for you.

By: Kyrah Kirchner

Kyrah Kirchner — Mon, 11 Jan 2010 17:57:40 +0000

Thanks so much for posting this! I have been having a really hard time with some of this myself. The role of woman in military conflict is something that trips me up. I really want to go into the air force but am feeling conflicted about how biblical this is. I realize that for a woman to hold a position of authority over a man is wrong but am confused as to how this would play out in the military. Any insight on this would be a great help. ~ Kyrah