Comments on: The Big Misunderstanding http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/ reb•e•lu•tion (reb’el lu shen) n. a teenage rebellion against low expectations Thu, 09 Feb 2012 00:43:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Genevie Jeanty http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-1217254 Genevie Jeanty Sat, 31 Dec 2011 23:08:13 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-1217254 I'd prefer to take into account the possibility of thanking you to your professional guidance I've consistently enjoyed browsing your web page. I’d prefer to take into account the possibility of thanking you to your professional guidance I’ve consistently enjoyed browsing your web page.

]]> By: angela http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-897425 angela Fri, 12 Aug 2011 17:46:51 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-897425 I agree that guys need to be more chivalrous and that we really do need to be more appreciative. HOWEVER. While i love it when guys open the door, get me water, get up and grab a fork at the caf when i forget one. i can open my car door. seriously :) although i wouldn't diss a guy who did it for me i think it goes back to the 'sticky rocks' theory of gifts. I agree that guys need to be more chivalrous and that we really do need to be more appreciative. HOWEVER. While i love it when guys open the door, get me water, get up and grab a fork at the caf when i forget one. i can open my car door. seriously :) although i wouldn’t diss a guy who did it for me i think it goes back to the ’sticky rocks’ theory of gifts.

]]> By: Jordan http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-885914 Jordan Thu, 04 Aug 2011 15:29:30 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-885914 I think the disclaimer is a great idea. :) I typically find that the way the question is phrased decides whether or not I accept the help-- if you ask me "Do you need [or even 'want'] help with that?" I tend to get a little defensive (look, I can carry my own bag! It's not even that heavy!!) I will definitely try harder to accept your help in the future, and thank you so much for trying and putting up with people who fight your help. I think the disclaimer is a great idea. :) I typically find that the way the question is phrased decides whether or not I accept the help– if you ask me “Do you need [or even 'want'] help with that?” I tend to get a little defensive (look, I can carry my own bag! It’s not even that heavy!!)
I will definitely try harder to accept your help in the future, and thank you so much for trying and putting up with people who fight your help.

]]> By: Samantha http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-830371 Samantha Tue, 28 Jun 2011 17:26:48 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-830371 Brett, thank you so much for showing a guy's point of view on the subject! It's refreshing to hear the other view point, rather than my own or my friend's! Brett, thank you so much for showing a guy’s point of view on the subject! It’s refreshing to hear the other view point, rather than my own or my friend’s!

]]> By: Carolyn http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-766060 Carolyn Mon, 09 May 2011 00:55:55 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-766060 This was a great post. Guys please take the chivalry thing to heart! You guys have no idea how encouraging your offers are! When a guy offers to help me I feel as if the fight to be biblically feminine is not a losing battle! This was a great post. Guys please take the chivalry thing to heart! You guys have no idea how encouraging your offers are! When a guy offers to help me I feel as if the fight to be biblically feminine is not a losing battle!

]]> By: Kristin http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-676637 Kristin Fri, 28 Jan 2011 18:19:44 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-676637 On behalf of the entire female population, I want to apologize to you gentlemen. This is particularly convicting because just a few minutes ago, i was walking across campus and on my way out of a building, a guy coming in opened the door and stood there, holding it for me. However, I did not realize he was waiting for me to go through it until I was halfway out the *other* door (normally the guy just charges right through it). It flustered him a little that I did not accept, and I felt really bad. Guys, please know that sometimes when we "reject" your chivalry, we are not rejecting you or your gesture, we are just not used to your manners and don't realize what you are doing until after the fact. On behalf of the entire female population, I want to apologize to you gentlemen.
This is particularly convicting because just a few minutes ago, i was walking across campus and on my way out of a building, a guy coming in opened the door and stood there, holding it for me. However, I did not realize he was waiting for me to go through it until I was halfway out the *other* door (normally the guy just charges right through it). It flustered him a little that I did not accept, and I felt really bad.

Guys, please know that sometimes when we “reject” your chivalry, we are not rejecting you or your gesture, we are just not used to your manners and don’t realize what you are doing until after the fact.

]]> By: katherine m http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-673322 katherine m Mon, 24 Jan 2011 22:41:42 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-673322 I can't help but see this as an exageration. I am quick to refuse chivalry, but it has little to with believing that the man offering the chivalry considers me inferior. It has little to do with not wanting you to be inconvenienced either. Often, the chivalry offered just doesn't make sense. For example, if I'm carrying a bag and you offer to take it I may say no for various reasons: maybe I have something in it that I don't want you to see; maybe it would actually inconvenience ME; maybe its a special bad from my grandma, and I don't want you to get it dirty. Ok, so I admit that those reasons are unlikely (especially the last one..), but the point is that there are soo many possibilities- LEGIT reasons that could cause me to refuse your offer. However, that said, kudos to the guys out there who really do try to be curteous. I promise it is appreciated! Just please don't be offended if we decided not to accept your offer- 99% of the time we will have a good reason. I can’t help but see this as an exageration. I am quick to refuse chivalry, but it has little to with believing that the man offering the chivalry considers me inferior. It has little to do with not wanting you to be inconvenienced either. Often, the chivalry offered just doesn’t make sense. For example, if I’m carrying a bag and you offer to take it I may say no for various reasons: maybe I have something in it that I don’t want you to see; maybe it would actually inconvenience ME; maybe its a special bad from my grandma, and I don’t want you to get it dirty. Ok, so I admit that those reasons are unlikely (especially the last one..), but the point is that there are soo many possibilities- LEGIT reasons that could cause me to refuse your offer.
However, that said, kudos to the guys out there who really do try to be curteous. I promise it is appreciated! Just please don’t be offended if we decided not to accept your offer- 99% of the time we will have a good reason.

]]> By: Becca http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-670812 Becca Sat, 22 Jan 2011 03:52:34 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-670812 i wish chivalry took place at my school.. many times guys dont care or even ask to help.. i have had some offers to help or open the door and i really try to thank them but it rarely happens. so guys, please please be conscientious to ladies, and ladies thank them!!!!!!!! i cant stress enough to guys that even if their offer is rejected to not stop! some girls (no offense) are just jerks and try to down guys & some just dont want help but there are some who will love it if you ask so dont get discouraged please!!! and to all guys who read this, i cant thank you enough for being kind and thoughtful to us ladies :) i wish chivalry took place at my school.. many times guys dont care or even ask to help.. i have had some offers to help or open the door and i really try to thank them but it rarely happens. so guys, please please be conscientious to ladies, and ladies thank them!!!!!!!! i cant stress enough to guys that even if their offer is rejected to not stop! some girls (no offense) are just jerks and try to down guys & some just dont want help but there are some who will love it if you ask so dont get discouraged please!!! and to all guys who read this, i cant thank you enough for being kind and thoughtful to us ladies :)

]]> By: Steve Mendoza http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-655757 Steve Mendoza Wed, 05 Jan 2011 23:46:15 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-655757 honestly, and not to be rude to any women, but even if the thing that is offered to be carried, i think that you should accept that offer. in a way, it kind of "spurns" a guy's self esteem, and it makes them feel weak. (i get that allot!) i dont understand that! please explain to me. shoot me an email: brasiliero04@gmail.com honestly, and not to be rude to any women, but even if the thing that is offered to be carried, i think that you should accept that offer. in a way, it kind of “spurns” a guy’s self esteem, and it makes them feel weak. (i get that allot!) i dont understand that! please explain to me. shoot me an email:

brasiliero04@gmail.com

]]> By: Lil Zack http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-566828 Lil Zack Tue, 20 Jul 2010 16:43:46 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/the-big-misunderstanding/#comment-566828 I just don't get how sometimes girls go to these extremes of giving speaches. For example: "I can do it myself you sexest pig. Just because you see a girl carrying a heavy...(Ect)" I think you get the point. So that was a girl I haven't even met. How can girls just asume things like that insantly? On some ocasones they can end up going from calling someone a sexist to being one. It's just my opinoin. I just don’t get how sometimes girls go to these extremes of giving speaches. For example: “I can do it myself you sexest pig. Just because you see a girl carrying a heavy…(Ect)” I think you get the point. So that was a girl I haven’t even met. How can girls just asume things like that insantly? On some ocasones they can end up going from calling someone a sexist to being one. It’s just my opinoin.

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