Comments on: When Chivalry Is Inconvenient http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/ reb•e•lu•tion (reb’el lu shen) n. a teenage rebellion against low expectations Thu, 09 Feb 2012 01:48:57 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Portia Hady http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-1272150 Portia Hady Wed, 08 Feb 2012 03:52:39 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-1272150 Let me get started by saying good post. Im not certain if it has been talked about, but when making use of Chrome I can by no means get the entire internet site to load without refreshing a great many times. Could just be my computer system. Thanks. Let me get started by saying good post. Im not certain if it has been talked about, but when making use of Chrome I can by no means get the entire internet site to load without refreshing a great many times. Could just be my computer system. Thanks.

]]> By: Kelsi http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-1234125 Kelsi Wed, 11 Jan 2012 00:59:43 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-1234125 Wow!! Thank you, Alex and Brett, for the series! I feel so convicted. :P All the guys in my youth group are very nice and gentlemanly and there has been a lot of times I've turned down offers to get in front of the line, or sit in the best seat, etc, because I felt bad about them being inconvenienced. But now I know better! Thank you SOOO much! Wow!! Thank you, Alex and Brett, for the series! I feel so convicted. :P All the guys in my youth group are very nice and gentlemanly and there has been a lot of times I’ve turned down offers to get in front of the line, or sit in the best seat, etc, because I felt bad about them being inconvenienced. But now I know better! Thank you SOOO much!

]]> By: Natividad Sivic http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-1214156 Natividad Sivic Fri, 30 Dec 2011 14:27:09 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-1214156 Nice way to explain. Thanks. Nice way to explain. Thanks.

]]> By: Lydia http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-1190439 Lydia Sat, 17 Dec 2011 21:18:22 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-1190439 Excellent blog, Alex & Brett. A chance internet encounter brought me to this blog yesterday, and I have since found out that my parents used to attend your parents' homeschool seminars waaaaaay back in the day, and that I read your brother's book as a young teen! Praise God for His marvelous plan and how He is using you and your family. As for the topic of chivalry, my applause and gratitude for this series which handles the topic with practicality, humor, clarity, and God-supplied grace. I think it's awesome that the impact of the blog, and the conversation, is continuing five years after it was first written! First of all, kudos to all you brothers, knights-in-training who face and overcome massive obstacles on your way to becoming true gentlemen! Your efforts are both noticed and appreciated. As these writers and so many commenters make clear, it is the kind intents of your heart which are appreciated, not token gestures. I can identify both with a Not So Fair Maiden and with Hannah D. in being an extremely independent woman. It has taken me a long time to accept my brothers' inherent need to serve me "as the weaker vessel" and to receive that service with grace and gratitude. I agree with Hannah, it calls for "extra hard praying." Keep it up, y'all, let the conversation continue! Excellent blog, Alex & Brett. A chance internet encounter brought me to this blog yesterday, and I have since found out that my parents used to attend your parents’ homeschool seminars waaaaaay back in the day, and that I read your brother’s book as a young teen! Praise God for His marvelous plan and how He is using you and your family.

As for the topic of chivalry, my applause and gratitude for this series which handles the topic with practicality, humor, clarity, and God-supplied grace. I think it’s awesome that the impact of the blog, and the conversation, is continuing five years after it was first written!

First of all, kudos to all you brothers, knights-in-training who face and overcome massive obstacles on your way to becoming true gentlemen! Your efforts are both noticed and appreciated. As these writers and so many commenters make clear, it is the kind intents of your heart which are appreciated, not token gestures.

I can identify both with a Not So Fair Maiden and with Hannah D. in being an extremely independent woman. It has taken me a long time to accept my brothers’ inherent need to serve me “as the weaker vessel” and to receive that service with grace and gratitude. I agree with Hannah, it calls for “extra hard praying.”

Keep it up, y’all, let the conversation continue!

]]> By: Hannah D. http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-1021666 Hannah D. Sun, 09 Oct 2011 18:45:04 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-1021666 Wonderful job AGAIN, Alex and Brett! I really feel strongly about this issue, but I won't go into a long comment about this, I just wanted to encourage other sisters out there. I am a very outgoing, and independent young woman. I like doing things for myself. In this world that we live in today, having the mindset that I can do everything myself, is a common mindset. Called Feminism. I think that we often miss the comparison between having an independent mindset and having a feminist mindset. There is nothing wrong with being independent, only when it comes to the point of scorning chivalry and the commands that God have given men to perform. We need to appreciate and accept that they are willing to protect us and lead us. I want to disagree with 'Jordan', it isn't awkward to wait in the car for our fathers, brothers, husbands or boyfriends to open the door. It's gentlemanly and I appreciate it. I think that we who were 'born' :) independent (like myself), need to do some extra hard praying to make sure that we accept gentlemanly offers and chivalry with a good attitude and thanks. Thank you once again Alex and Brett for The Rebelution and for all your work! God Bless, Miss Hannah Wonderful job AGAIN, Alex and Brett!

I really feel strongly about this issue, but I won’t go into a long comment about this, I just wanted to encourage other sisters out there.

I am a very outgoing, and independent young woman. I like doing things for myself.
In this world that we live in today, having the mindset that I can do everything myself, is a common mindset. Called Feminism.
I think that we often miss the comparison between having an independent mindset and having a feminist mindset. There is nothing wrong with being independent, only when it comes to the point of scorning chivalry and the commands that God have given men to perform. We need to appreciate and accept that they are willing to protect us and lead us. I want to disagree with ‘Jordan’, it isn’t awkward to wait in the car for our fathers, brothers, husbands or boyfriends to open the door. It’s gentlemanly and I appreciate it.

I think that we who were ‘born’ :) independent (like myself), need to do some extra hard praying to make sure that we accept gentlemanly offers and chivalry with a good attitude and thanks.

Thank you once again Alex and Brett for The Rebelution and for all your work!

God Bless,
Miss Hannah

]]> By: Lyra http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-927238 Lyra Sat, 27 Aug 2011 20:53:00 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-927238 Jordan i SO agree :) really guys the car door thing takes forever! I guess my thing is that the only time i meet guys who are Chivalrous in the sense that they actually care about your well being is at the Youth Conference i go to in the summer. Church guys at home of any denomination just seem to fling chivalry at us. Like 'here let me get the door adios' not time to say thanks or hi or anything. the ignoring while helping part is what irks me i guess. I mean i'm not reading into it as 'will you date me?' but more like 'i am helping you because i would do this for my sister in Christ as well as by blood' anyway thanks for the article! Jordan i SO agree :) really guys the car door thing takes forever! I guess my thing is that the only time i meet guys who are Chivalrous in the sense that they actually care about your well being is at the Youth Conference i go to in the summer. Church guys at home of any denomination just seem to fling chivalry at us. Like ‘here let me get the door adios’ not time to say thanks or hi or anything. the ignoring while helping part is what irks me i guess. I mean i’m not reading into it as ‘will you date me?’ but more like ‘i am helping you because i would do this for my sister in Christ as well as by blood’
anyway thanks for the article!

]]> By: Jordan http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-909386 Jordan Fri, 19 Aug 2011 23:20:12 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-909386 I only find chivalry once a year, at discipleship camp. So, I kind of try to get as much as possible in six days no matter how inconvinient in hopes it will somehow last the whole year ["Yes, I will stop outside in the rain so you can open the door for me, even though you are ten yards away!" "Yes, I will wait next to my table for three minutes so you can pull out my chair!" "Yes, I will drink this nasty beverage because you gave it to me!"] I would DEFINITELY rather you make the effort, seriously. I don't like chivalry because my life is incredibly difficult when I have to open my own doors or wait in line. You guys very much encourage me to be a lady. It is often very hard-- and gentlemanly and ladylike behavior are mutually inclusive; we can't have just ladies OR just gentlemen. Another thing, don't open the car door for them to get out unless you're RIGHT THERE. It doesn't bother me (see above, I love it), but to a bunch of girls, that seems to be hands-down the most inconvient chivalry possible because they have to awkwardly sit in the car until you come around. I only find chivalry once a year, at discipleship camp. So, I kind of try to get as much as possible in six days no matter how inconvinient in hopes it will somehow last the whole year ["Yes, I will stop outside in the rain so you can open the door for me, even though you are ten yards away!" "Yes, I will wait next to my table for three minutes so you can pull out my chair!" "Yes, I will drink this nasty beverage because you gave it to me!"] I would DEFINITELY rather you make the effort, seriously. I don’t like chivalry because my life is incredibly difficult when I have to open my own doors or wait in line. You guys very much encourage me to be a lady. It is often very hard– and gentlemanly and ladylike behavior are mutually inclusive; we can’t have just ladies OR just gentlemen.

Another thing, don’t open the car door for them to get out unless you’re RIGHT THERE. It doesn’t bother me (see above, I love it), but to a bunch of girls, that seems to be hands-down the most inconvient chivalry possible because they have to awkwardly sit in the car until you come around.

]]> By: Nicole Nalley http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-825818 Nicole Nalley Fri, 24 Jun 2011 19:35:37 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-825818 Thank you so much for taking the time to write on this subject! It is so good to hear that there are truly chivalrous men out there! I have found myself in all of the situations that you mentioned at one time or another, and have often been at a loss of what to do. Gentlemanly (and Gentle-womanly) behavior is so rare these days! Thank you so much for taking the time to write on this subject! It is so good to hear that there are truly chivalrous men out there! I have found myself in all of the situations that you mentioned at one time or another, and have often been at a loss of what to do. Gentlemanly (and Gentle-womanly) behavior is so rare these days!

]]> By: Colin http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-697416 Colin Sun, 27 Feb 2011 03:41:04 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-697416 Thank you so much for this series of lessons on chivalry. It is such an important issue, and as a male I appreciate not only your straightfowardness and honesty, but also your explanation for why we should act like gentlemen. Thank you also for pointing out how the ladies we strive to serve should respond to our offers. I hope this will increase our confidence as gentlemen and allow us all to treat all ladies with respect and honor, protecting them, and serving them. For as we our Christ's bride and he served us in the most important and unimaginable way possible, we as men need to serve the women in our lives. Thank you so much for this series of lessons on chivalry. It is such an important issue, and as a male I appreciate not only your straightfowardness and honesty, but also your explanation for why we should act like gentlemen. Thank you also for pointing out how the ladies we strive to serve should respond to our offers. I hope this will increase our confidence as gentlemen and allow us all to treat all ladies with respect and honor, protecting them, and serving them. For as we our Christ’s bride and he served us in the most important and unimaginable way possible, we as men need to serve the women in our lives.

]]> By: Lorena http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-683993 Lorena Mon, 07 Feb 2011 17:18:57 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-683993 Hey! I know this was posted years ago but I want to say how grateful I am, thank you so much! But, a guy once offered to help me with something and I declined, and then he showed that he was grateful that I declined. So now I feel kind of bad if I accept help! Should I just accept anyway, no matter how they feel? Hey! I know this was posted years ago but I want to say how grateful I am, thank you so much! But, a guy once offered to help me with something and I declined, and then he showed that he was grateful that I declined. So now I feel kind of bad if I accept help! Should I just accept anyway, no matter how they feel?

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