Comments on: When Chivalry Is Inconvenient http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/ reb•e•lu•tion (reb’el lu shen) n. a teenage rebellion against the low expectations of an ungodly culture. Mon, 6 Oct 2008 21:51:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.0.3 by: Torrey Benware http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-314087 Thu, 18 Sep 2008 13:36:20 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-314087 Diana Fielding: I read your post with a lot of interest because that little guy was me. Well, he was like me. I was always this little, small guy and many times when I asked women to allow me to help them, they thought I couldn't because I was too young or too little or not strong enough. Let me tell you, though, the ones that allowed me to help them helped me so much more! I mean, number one, lifting that heavy bag will build muscle but more importantly, it allows him to feel like he's important and helpful. If he asks again, I'd encourage you to let him help even if he looks like he'll topple over. Torrey Diana Fielding:
I read your post with a lot of interest because that little guy was me. Well, he was like me. I was always this little, small guy and many times when I asked women to allow me to help them, they thought I couldn’t because I was too young or too little or not strong enough. Let me tell you, though, the ones that allowed me to help them helped me so much more! I mean, number one, lifting that heavy bag will build muscle but more importantly, it allows him to feel like he’s important and helpful. If he asks again, I’d encourage you to let him help even if he looks like he’ll topple over.
Torrey

]]> by: Molly http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-292974 Wed, 13 Aug 2008 17:59:10 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-292974 One of my small group teachers used this series as an example to show how Christian guys should treat Christian girls. We're studying relationships in my youth group right now, and it has been a very interesting lesson(s). Thankfully, I don't have to look for chivalry that hard, though. My father and my grandfather and a lot of my guy-friends are all very chivalrous, and my younger brother is learning - however slowly :) - to become a gentleman as well. Looking around at women having to do things for themselves such as carry heavy loads and open doors makes me sad for them and makes me realize how good I've got it. Now I'll be the first to admit, sometimes I do not accept chivalry as graciously as I should, and if you catch me in a bad mood I'll refuse it altogether, but reading this series helped me realize how much I need to encourage the guys around me to be gentlemen, and how to help them achieve that. Thanks for writing this, Brett! God bless! One of my small group teachers used this series as an example to show how Christian guys should treat Christian girls. We’re studying relationships in my youth group right now, and it has been a very interesting lesson(s). Thankfully, I don’t have to look for chivalry that hard, though. My father and my grandfather and a lot of my guy-friends are all very chivalrous, and my younger brother is learning - however slowly :) - to become a gentleman as well. Looking around at women having to do things for themselves such as carry heavy loads and open doors makes me sad for them and makes me realize how good I’ve got it. Now I’ll be the first to admit, sometimes I do not accept chivalry as graciously as I should, and if you catch me in a bad mood I’ll refuse it altogether, but reading this series helped me realize how much I need to encourage the guys around me to be gentlemen, and how to help them achieve that. Thanks for writing this, Brett! God bless!

]]> by: A wouldbe knight http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-291621 Sun, 10 Aug 2008 18:27:18 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-291621 My parents always taut my brother and myself to be gentlemen and when I believe I was about five we ran ahead of my mom and sisters to open the door and right when we had opened the door a lady walked up as started chewing us out for opening up the door and saying that she could do it herself and then walked indignantly into the store. Now after reading "When Lancelot Comes Riding" I notice that I have had a false chivalrous attitude toward some people and a real chivalrous attitude to others. Thanks for the encouragement guys, keep it up! My parents always taut my brother and myself to be gentlemen and when I believe I was about five we ran ahead of my mom and sisters to open the door and right when we had opened the door a lady walked up as started chewing us out for opening up the door and saying that she could do it herself and then walked indignantly into the store. Now after reading “When Lancelot Comes Riding” I notice that I have had a false chivalrous attitude toward some people and a real chivalrous attitude to others. Thanks for the encouragement guys, keep it up!

]]> by: Rachel Seay http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-290629 Fri, 08 Aug 2008 17:58:13 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-290629 Brett, Thank you again for these posts. I generally don't add my comment to the 100 plus that usually show up on y'all's site but this series was absolutely wonderful. This subject is one that's near and dear to my heart and I've never seen a better presentation (for it's length) than yours. So, I add my voice to the others on here and offer cheers to you, a true gentleman. Thank you. Brett, Thank you again for these posts. I generally don’t add my comment to the 100 plus that usually show up on y’all’s site but this series was absolutely wonderful. This subject is one that’s near and dear to my heart and I’ve never seen a better presentation (for it’s length) than yours. So, I add my voice to the others on here and offer cheers to you, a true gentleman. Thank you.

]]> by: Heyley http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-287461 Sat, 02 Aug 2008 19:19:59 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-287461 I like this...but whoever wrote about receiving a sweater should have sent it back because it's inappropriate to accept clothing from guys [I think] as a girl. At least it was deemed inappropriate in the earlier days. Same as not receiving expensive jewelry. Just a random thought. I like this…but whoever wrote about receiving a sweater should have sent it back because it’s inappropriate to accept clothing from guys [I think] as a girl. At least it was deemed inappropriate in the earlier days. Same as not receiving expensive jewelry. Just a random thought.

]]> by: Missionary Kid http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-286400 Thu, 31 Jul 2008 19:23:35 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-286400 Since I have three sisters, I tend to struggle a lot with this. Sometimes I get so tired of trying to be chivalrous. But these articles are helpful. God bless. Since I have three sisters, I tend to struggle a lot with this. Sometimes I get so tired of trying to be chivalrous. But these articles are helpful.
God bless.

]]> by: Elisa http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-283937 Sun, 27 Jul 2008 02:49:15 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-283937 Thanks a lot Brett! I hope a lot of guys are reading this. Thanks a lot Brett!
I hope a lot of guys are reading this.

]]> by: Callie http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-281033 Mon, 21 Jul 2008 21:16:34 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-281033 Hey! The whole thing is awesome! Thanks so much. I never really thought about it before but this is really relevant, especially when the guy is trying to "reform" from a two-face (he said it first (:= ) into a guy for God. I love this blog! Hey! The whole thing is awesome! Thanks so much. I never really thought about it before but this is really relevant, especially when the guy is trying to “reform” from a two-face (he said it first (:= ) into a guy for God. I love this blog!

]]> by: Erin R. http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-256969 Sat, 21 Jun 2008 20:11:34 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-256969 Thanks for addressing this! We really notice it when a guy will do something for us. For example something that my brother does for me is that wherever we go, he will open the door for me. SO SIMPLE, but I notice it and it does make me feel like a lady. Thanks for the advice on how to say no, that is SOOOO helpful. Guys, Please think about what you are doing before you do it. We love it when you try to help, but when I am helping with my youth group to load boxes on a truck, and there are still lots more to be loaded, now is not the time to ask if you can carry my box. But do continue to be chivilris, I know when a guy respects me like that, I definately respect him! Thanks for addressing this! We really notice it when a guy will do something for us. For example something that my brother does for me is that wherever we go, he will open the door for me. SO SIMPLE, but I notice it and it does make me feel like a lady. Thanks for the advice on how to say no, that is SOOOO helpful.

Guys,
Please think about what you are doing before you do it. We love it when you try to help, but when I am helping with my youth group to load boxes on a truck, and there are still lots more to be loaded, now is not the time to ask if you can carry my box. But do continue to be chivilris, I know when a guy respects me like that, I definately respect him!

]]> by: Kelsa Hope http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-256149 Fri, 20 Jun 2008 19:03:23 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-256149 I just recently discovered this website. It's AWESOME!!! I have been on every day, and have learned so mcuh and been incredibly encouraged. A huge thank you to everyone who contributes to it!!! I wanted to make a comment to girls reading this: in my own experience, girls often refuse chivalry because they are afraid of what their friends might think. One night, at a youth event, one of my friends was cold because she had forgotten to bring a jacket. Another guy took his off and offered it to her. Now this guy was in the less popular circle, and my friend refused. Later she commented on how frustrating it was that it happened in front of her friends. She didn't want people getting the wrong impression- that he liked her or vice versa. So girls, I want to encourage you NOT to care what people think about chivalry. Look to God and see what He thinks. And you know what happened later? This guy felt hurt that she had refused his coat... and everyone knew it. Don't discourage guys from chivalry!!! And guys, if you've ever been hurt when you're trying to be chivalrous, don't be discouraged. Thanks, guys! I just recently discovered this website. It’s AWESOME!!! I have been on every day, and have learned so mcuh and been incredibly encouraged. A huge thank you to everyone who contributes to it!!!
I wanted to make a comment to girls reading this: in my own experience, girls often refuse chivalry because they are afraid of what their friends might think. One night, at a youth event, one of my friends was cold because she had forgotten to bring a jacket. Another guy took his off and offered it to her. Now this guy was in the less popular circle, and my friend refused. Later she commented on how frustrating it was that it happened in front of her friends. She didn’t want people getting the wrong impression- that he liked her or vice versa.
So girls, I want to encourage you NOT to care what people think about chivalry. Look to God and see what He thinks.
And you know what happened later? This guy felt hurt that she had refused his coat… and everyone knew it.
Don’t discourage guys from chivalry!!!
And guys, if you’ve ever been hurt when you’re trying to be chivalrous, don’t be discouraged.
Thanks, guys!

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