Comments on: When Chivalry Is Inconvenient http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/ reb•e•lu•tion (reb’el lu shen) n. a teenage rebellion against low expectations Sat, 20 Mar 2010 22:09:59 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: Christin http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-535732 Christin Wed, 24 Feb 2010 18:10:16 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-535732 This was an excellent series! Thank you so much for posting this! In the last year I have become aware of the fact that I tend to view chivalry as a put-down, or else just be confused by it. For example: my Dad will offer to carry something for me and I assume it is because he thinks I'm weak (I have always been known as the least athletic of my siblings). So I get irritated and say no. My parents never showed any favoritism between my siblings and I, so this sort of "special treatment" confused me. I felt like my Dad was hinting around that I'm lazy or something! Also, I play in a band, and at shows sometimes guys from the church we're playing at will offer to take the equipment that I'm carrying out to the van for me. I always feel awkward because I feel like it's my job to carry the gear (and maybe it would have been better if they'd carried the heavy amps rather than my music bag!), and so I respond somewhat awkwardly. Hopefully I've come across as polite and grateful, but I know I haven't dealt with these issues well. This blog series helped me understand what guys are thinking a bit better. So next time my Dad offers to carry something for me, I'll smile and thank him rather than get offended. And when a guy at a show offers to help me with the light stuff I'm carrying, maybe I'll kindly ask him to get the amp instead! This was an excellent series! Thank you so much for posting this! In the last year I have become aware of the fact that I tend to view chivalry as a put-down, or else just be confused by it. For example: my Dad will offer to carry something for me and I assume it is because he thinks I’m weak (I have always been known as the least athletic of my siblings). So I get irritated and say no. My parents never showed any favoritism between my siblings and I, so this sort of “special treatment” confused me. I felt like my Dad was hinting around that I’m lazy or something! Also, I play in a band, and at shows sometimes guys from the church we’re playing at will offer to take the equipment that I’m carrying out to the van for me. I always feel awkward because I feel like it’s my job to carry the gear (and maybe it would have been better if they’d carried the heavy amps rather than my music bag!), and so I respond somewhat awkwardly. Hopefully I’ve come across as polite and grateful, but I know I haven’t dealt with these issues well. This blog series helped me understand what guys are thinking a bit better. So next time my Dad offers to carry something for me, I’ll smile and thank him rather than get offended. And when a guy at a show offers to help me with the light stuff I’m carrying, maybe I’ll kindly ask him to get the amp instead!

]]> By: Megan E. http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-524943 Megan E. Wed, 06 Jan 2010 05:53:05 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-524943 I'm joining a lot of other people in saying THANK YOU!! This series is so incredibly thoughtful and helpful! (I wasn't sure guys like these still existed) =) Although I am pretty capable of looking out for myself, it's super-nice to have a chivalrous guy who honors me by being a gentlemen! I offer my sincere gratitude to all you guys! Know that I will be praying for you, as well as working on accepting your chivalry more graciously! I’m joining a lot of other people in saying THANK YOU!! This series is so incredibly thoughtful and helpful! (I wasn’t sure guys like these still existed) =)
Although I am pretty capable of looking out for myself, it’s super-nice to have a chivalrous guy who honors me by being a gentlemen! I offer my sincere gratitude to all you guys! Know that I will be praying for you, as well as working on accepting your chivalry more graciously!

]]> By: Nicole http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-519668 Nicole Fri, 27 Nov 2009 07:56:13 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-519668 Thank you sooooo much! All these articles have been really helpful. I didn't realize some of these things until i read this but it all makes sense Thank you sooooo much! All these articles have been really helpful. I didn’t realize some of these things until i read this but it all makes sense

]]> By: Hannah H. http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-517620 Hannah H. Mon, 16 Nov 2009 04:00:24 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-517620 Tim Weiner- Do you think that you would be able to be a sort of "foster brother" to this young boy? Perhaps if he could learn to look up to you, watching how you handle certain situations he would follow suit. Praise the Lord for your concern for this little fellow. I will be praying for both of you! Under the Mercy, Hannah Tim Weiner-

Do you think that you would be able to be a sort of “foster brother” to this young boy? Perhaps if he could learn to look up to you, watching how you handle certain situations he would follow suit. Praise the Lord for your concern for this little fellow. I will be praying for both of you!

Under the Mercy,
Hannah

]]> By: Hannah H. http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-517616 Hannah H. Mon, 16 Nov 2009 03:52:07 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-517616 Hi Rebelution! Thank you so much for the insightful articles! I have really been making an effort to think of things my younger brothers can do to help them grow in this area. I also printed off all five articles so that my mom could read them and my dad could share them with my two younger brothers! I have often wished that young men and women could be friends and build each other up without other people "reading into it" as something that it isn't. Perhaps with enough young rebelutionaries working on it things will change in certain circles of friends. It is so neat to see teens and young adults applying these things. Thanks again! Under the Mercy, Hannah Hi Rebelution!
Thank you so much for the insightful articles! I have really been making an effort to think of things my younger brothers can do to help them grow in this area. I also printed off all five articles so that my mom could read them and my dad could share them with my two younger brothers! I have often wished that young men and women could be friends and build each other up without other people “reading into it” as something that it isn’t. Perhaps with enough young rebelutionaries working on it things will change in certain circles of friends. It is so neat to see teens and young adults applying these things. Thanks again!

Under the Mercy,
Hannah

]]> By: Bailey Quishenberry http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-502130 Bailey Quishenberry Sun, 23 Aug 2009 00:23:04 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-502130 I read the whole article and I think that it is something that we should all spend more time on. I have gone to the same Christian school since kindergarten and have grown up with basically the same group of people, and have seen the changes they have gone through. Now that I am in Junior High I see many of the kids who were once so nice and chivalrous now trying to be like there friends by being all around discourteous and disrespectful. It makes me sad to see the little kids who used to open the door for me (or anyone) now slam the door in the faces of the other students. I think that these kids think that because they are now teenagers they get to be lazy and self centered well it is not true! And also the kids who were never courteous are still not courteous. (that is a given) It is a blessing to me when I see a kid staying in the habit of being chivalrous because his parents trained him up in the way he should go firmly. Well thanks for letting me vent! Your Sister in Christ Bailey I read the whole article and I think that it is something that we should all spend more time on. I have gone to the same Christian school since kindergarten and have grown up with basically the same group of people, and have seen the changes they have gone through. Now that I am in Junior High I see many of the kids who were once so nice and chivalrous now trying to be like there friends by being all around discourteous and disrespectful. It makes me sad to see the little kids who used to open the door for me (or anyone) now slam the door in the faces of the other students. I think that these kids think that because they are now teenagers they get to be lazy and self centered well it is not true! And also the kids who were never courteous are still not courteous. (that is a given) It is a blessing to me when I see a kid staying in the habit of being chivalrous because his parents trained him up in the way he should go firmly. Well thanks for letting me vent!

Your Sister in Christ Bailey

]]> By: Molly W http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-501083 Molly W Mon, 17 Aug 2009 16:34:01 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-501083 This whole series on chivalry is EXCELLENT, Brett!! I loved it! Since I started reading it a few days ago, I realized that, more often then not, on the rare occasion, when a guy (not at church or youth group,) opens the door for me, or offers to let me in front of him in line I admit, I would often turn him down. I won't do that any more! This series was my favorite I read so far...I like the way you are able to communicate the point of the story to the girls, as well as the guys; discriptive, yet simple, and slightly humerous, so we can understand and apply it easily! Thank you very much for writing this "When Lancelot comes Riding" series, Brett!!! This whole series on chivalry is EXCELLENT, Brett!!
I loved it!
Since I started reading it a few days ago, I realized that, more often then not, on the rare occasion, when a guy (not at church or youth group,) opens the door for me, or offers to let me in front of him in line I admit, I would often turn him down. I won’t do that any more!
This series was my favorite I read so far…I like the way you are able to communicate the point of the story to the girls, as well as the guys; discriptive, yet simple, and slightly humerous, so we can understand and apply it easily!
Thank you very much for writing this “When Lancelot comes Riding” series, Brett!!!

]]> By: Tim Weiner http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-497783 Tim Weiner Fri, 31 Jul 2009 03:28:22 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-497783 ok, well, i read no comments but the last two before mine, so if i seem a wee bit ignorant, forgive me. :/ does anybody have advice for this situation? : a young, six-year-old boy, who's brother is not (by any means) a gentleman, and has no desire of becoming one, and whose father is around often enough to match the brother's example? i'd love to see this lad grow to be a fine gentleman, but i'm afraid he doesn't have enough influence in his life. ok, well, i read no comments but the last two before mine, so if i seem a wee bit ignorant, forgive me. :/

does anybody have advice for this situation? :

a young, six-year-old boy, who’s brother is not (by any means) a gentleman, and has no desire of becoming one, and whose father is around often enough to match the brother’s example? i’d love to see this lad grow to be a fine gentleman, but i’m afraid he doesn’t have enough influence in his life.

]]> By: Jakeb Brasee http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-493142 Jakeb Brasee Wed, 08 Jul 2009 20:41:54 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-493142 Not so fair maiden, I don't know if you will ever read this, but THANK YOU SO MUCH for your comments! You have taught me a lot with your honesty -- indeed, your comments were so good I had to go and include them in my book. :) I hope you don't mind. But thank you, very much, for everything you said! Not so fair maiden, I don’t know if you will ever read this, but THANK YOU SO MUCH for your comments! You have taught me a lot with your honesty — indeed, your comments were so good I had to go and include them in my book. :) I hope you don’t mind. But thank you, very much, for everything you said!

]]> By: Aravir http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-491843 Aravir Thu, 02 Jul 2009 22:28:53 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2006/09/when-chivalry-is-inconvenient/#comment-491843 A wonderful blessing and a serious reminder. Thank you so much for this series, Brett. More than just the guys are going to grow from this. (as seen from the comments over these 5 posts) I already am; and I know several fellow girls who could too. Being that I found y'all a little late(er than most) I have a ton of back-posts and articles to read. I can't get enough. Some may have to wait until tomorrow though. I think I've irritated my mom for being on here for so long this afternoon. A wonderful blessing and a serious reminder. Thank you so much for this series, Brett. More than just the guys are going to grow from this. (as seen from the comments over these 5 posts) I already am; and I know several fellow girls who could too.

Being that I found y’all a little late(er than most) I have a ton of back-posts and articles to read. I can’t get enough. Some may have to wait until tomorrow though. I think I’ve irritated my mom for being on here for so long this afternoon.

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