First, I don’t think the origins of feminism set out to have women dominate men as you claim the bible predicts, but to place women equal status with men. I agree extreme feminism of the second wave women’s movement in 1960s-1970s took things way too far to gain equality by ignoring or erase gender distinctions except for basic biological differences(even that is sometimes treated as less importance or ignored in certain situations), being housewives is oppressive, women can do it all, or that a woman should be more like a man too succeed and denouncing femininity as being weak. The list goes on but those of the main points.

Another point i need to make is you keep going on about different roles and responsibilities about but don’t say what are exactly the different roles and duties, in the home, society? Many feminists probably reject this philosophy as limiting women’s roles in society and I kind of see their point in that area even if I don’t entirely agree. I think there needs to be a line to draw regarding what type of roles between the sexes that are different and not based them on extreme and restrictive gender stereotypes of what men and women should do.

Some of the different roles are in the marriage in which only the husband is the head and wife is the helpmeet. When I say head I don’t mean the typical english meaning of head but greek word kephale which means the one being out in front leading the way taking the greatest risks as Jesus did when led the way for the church even laying down his life for it. I’ts not about having a higher rank or authority over a wife rather than the responsibility to take the lead in self sacrifice service, giving and protection of his wife and his wife submits( voluntary yield oneself to another out of love) to this as a helpmeet(partner, ally, companion).

Many christians hold on to the Ward and June Cleaver image of what the different roles in the home or in society but these are not the biblical way either. Patriarch views on christianity has been used to justify chauvinism placing men on higher status in marriage and in life, limiting women’s roles by taking scriptures out of context and misinterpreting them altogether. For one thing, the scripture never says men are the head of the household but the head of the wife. Actually scriptures teaches women are to be masters of the household in Tim 5:14 the greek word oikodespoteo is used which means to rule, to head or to master. In Tim 3:4 and Tim 312 the greek word proistemi is used describing the husband’s duty which means to protect, superintend, give aid, care set or place before and guardian. I want to conclude that christians need to have a better understanding what the distant roles of between sexes and where to drawn the line that doesn’t hold on to some outdated ideals based on extreme gender stereoptypes from era of “Leave it to Beaver” neither should be try to through out all the distinctions and have completely roleless marriage based on on extreme post feminist viewpoint.

I recall there is a book by Robert Lewis called “Rocking the roles, Win Win marriage where he encourages people to go beyond the Ozzie & Harriet type of marriage and the modern roleless marriage of today which could make an interesting read. Thanks again for a good article

In response to your question, I guess women ( and likewise men) are not free to ‘choose’ not to marry, as God’s will prevails. But if it is not God’s will for you to be married then he has a perfect plan for you!

In Christ’s love,
Megan