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February 17th, 2007 at 3:11 pm
What a great idea! I just signed the card.
Ellie
February 17th, 2007 at 4:25 pm
Dear Brothers In Christ,
Thanks you. Thank you. Thank you. This survey will truly help us girls who seek to glorify God and protect our brothers. It will help keep us from doing/wearing things that we will later, as I know I always do, deeply regret. Thank you, Christian men, for taking the time to help us help you.
Sometimes being modest in this day and age feelings like a loosing battle. (So time consuming, expensive(!), and seemingly unrewarding.) But we “can do all things though Christ who strengthens us.”! (Philippians 4:13)
I am so glad (and encouraged!) that there are godly men out there who appreciate modesty.
The Lord is good, and the Lord is faithful! And He WILL sanctify His own! (Phil. 1:6)
God bless.
In Christ,
L.E. Fiore
February 17th, 2007 at 8:07 pm
Thank you so much! the modesty survey has encouraged me to even more fully devote myself to keeping high standers and dressing modestly. It’s so good to know what is a stumbling block and what isn’t. I had a pretty good idea before, but was surprised at some of the comments made! THANK YOU! Words cannot express the profound impact this has made on me….it was the BEST Valentine’s day gift ever!!!!!
Your sister in Christ,
-Francesca
February 17th, 2007 at 8:55 pm
Thanks for making this available!
February 18th, 2007 at 10:43 am
Alex and Brett,
First of all, the Modesty Survey has been a huge blessing for me. Being the oldest in a family of all girls except for two very young boys, I have been allowed more freedom in what I wear than a lot of other Christian girls. But now that I’ve read this, I am now very concerned about what I wear, and will continue to try and honor the brothers in Christ in my life and to honor God foremost.
But now that we’ve gotten a survey out for the guys, I’ve been thinking about an issue not often spoken of - emotional purity -t he area where girls stumble, with our emotions. We stumble when guys pay excess attention to us, or when they flirt, and etc. We can take things that guys say in very bizarre ways. We end up wasting a whole lot of mental energy, thinking, “So-and-so winked at me! Does he like me??” It would probably be a tough contest to see who has the bigger imagination - males or females.
It may seem like a crazy and out-of-the-question thing to ask right now, but, do you think that it might be in any way possible to have a survey some day for the girls to fill out? I’ll bet that almost every Christian girl out there has ways that she thinks a guy can help her not to stumble, but there hasn’t been ways to voice that. I think it is equally important for guys to help the girls in their weaknesses just as girls must help their brothers. We both have to put ourselves in the others’ shoes. A girl has to look at ourselves in the mirror and say, “Were I a man, would this cause me to stumble?” A guy has to pause and say, “Were I a woman, would I take this behavior in the wrong way?” So, at any rate, just a suggestion.
Keep up the incredible work, and thank you so much for the Survey. To God be the glory!
February 18th, 2007 at 12:37 pm
I signed it! This is a great idea.
I’ll say it again here: Thank you, guys for taking the time to answer these questions. You have no idea how much this is appreciated by me and many others!! 
February 18th, 2007 at 3:21 pm
I signed it - that was a great idea!
~Lady Tai
February 18th, 2007 at 5:38 pm
I really appreciate this opportunity to say thanks. I’m glad you let us know! God bless.
February 19th, 2007 at 8:46 am
Thank you for giving us the opportunity to thank all the guys; it is a really neat idea. The Modesty Survey was wonderful, and I am very grateful for it!
February 19th, 2007 at 9:20 am
What KIT had to say was very true. Her thoughts on emotional purity mirror my mine. Though I don’t know exactly how the girls feel, it seems to me that guys have a responsibility to “emotional modesty,” as do girls with physical modesty. A lot of that has to do with what we say, how involved/emotionally attached we get in friendships, etc.
Though I’m not sure how to address it, the issue seems worthy of attention.
~Caleb
February 19th, 2007 at 11:32 am
Thank you so much for the modesty survey!
It especially blessed me because it helped me to see how many guys do value modesty and purity. Sometimes I think to myself, do guys really appreciate this, or am I being overly modest? The survey was a great encouragement.
One thing I noticed in many of the text responses was that young men would often say, “I don’t know why you would wear that, so don’t,” such as in shiny skirts. I’d like to answer this with a question: Do you have any idea how hard it is to find pretty, feminine, modest clothes?
Many young men said they didn’t like it when girls dressed in a bag or like boys, yet on the other hand many forbade us to wear certain modest things because they didn’t like the style. This was… discouraging.
I’m not condemning you young men, but I would like you to be aware of how hard it is to find modest clothes that aren’t very expensive or ugly. Take low-rider jeans. That is practically all the department stores sell, along with short-waisted shirts. So when I, as a young woman, make the effort to find a long shirt that doesn’t show that the jeans are low-waisted, it is rather discouraging to hear a young man say, “It’s fine if the shirt is long so that you can’t tell the jeans are low-waisted, but I would question your motive in wearing low-waisted jeans.” They don’t SELL high-waisted jeans!
One other point I would like to make is similiar to KIT’s. I honestly believe that you young men have no idea how much of a struggle it is to continue wearing modest clothes when we see you flirting with immodestly dressed girls, or when we see you simply talking more to the immodestly dressed girls because they look older. Then when we dress just a bit more immodestly in order to look older and gain what we think is respect from you, you say, “Hey, you’re a stumbling block!” So I would encourage you to reevaluate just how much approval and respect you really are showing to the modestly-dressed girls through your actions, not just your words. Girls generally dress immodestly for you. You shouldn’t expect modest girls to wait ignored and unrespected in the wings while you have fun with the immodest ones, and then when you’re ready to get married turn around and notice us. I’m not blaming men for immodesty anymore than you guys are blaming girls for lust, but I am saying that this sort of behavior is a great emotional stumbling block for us.
Thank you so much again for sharing your thoughts and striving to live a life of purity!
February 19th, 2007 at 2:40 pm
KLR, I totally agree with you…it’s sometimes a little discouraging to be modest and (seemingly) unseen. While I’m committed to dressing modestly primarily because it honors the Lord and my parents and secondarily serves my brothers in Christ, a little godly encouragement from the guys we’re trying to serve is a blessing sometimes.
I also love the idea of a suvery about “emotional modesty” for the guys, like KIT suggested, sometime in the future…In the meantime, I’ll continue gleaning from the “physical modesty” survey with much gratefulness to all the guys who participated.
February 19th, 2007 at 2:47 pm
KLR,
Thank you for voicing your concerns! That’s an excellent point about what the stores sell–I’ve given up on jeans because the stores only sell ones I consider too tight or too low-waisted. And yes, finding pretty, feminine, and modest (a task in itself) is made harder because it’s not generally available. If the guys don’t like the style of the clothes that are modest, that can be attributed to personal preference, which should not be binding.
Are you sure it’s the kind of guy who answered this survey who’s also flirting with immodest girls? Quite likely, you’re seeing one group and hearing another. Don’t bother worrying about the guys you see encouraging immodesty. I know they’re the vast majority, but there are other guys who care a great deal about modesty, and respond to it (plus their behavior tends to leave the flirters in the dust).
February 19th, 2007 at 2:52 pm
Thanks! I signed it. I think that the thank-you card is a wonderful idea. The Modesty Survey certainly deserves a hearty round of applause!!
KIT–I love the idea of a survey for guys. I know that with all the work that everyone from The Rebelution just put into this survey, they probably don’t even want to think of another one yet, but I would love to contribute if anything like that was ever done. I have had several conversations with my guy friends concerning the way that their actions can be (mis)interpreted. I know that guys often just don’t realize how girls see certain actions. For example, at college I have one guy friend who (for a while anyway) sat by a different girl every class period. He didn’t mean anything by it, but I overheard some of the girls talking, and I know that they clearly misunderstood his intentions. There have been many times when I wished that I could explain things like that to my guy friends. As I said, we do talk about it some already, but I think that a survey would definitely be a benefit to many guys!
February 19th, 2007 at 3:34 pm
KLR: I have to agree you about the jeans.
Sorry, guys, but it is now (almost) officially impossible to find jeans that are not low-rise. I don’t want to wear something that is considered immodest, but guys shouldn’t notice whether or not I’m wearing low-rise pants. If they can, that would most likely mean that I am wearing too short of a shirt (which I think I have mostly avoided).
Anna: You’re right there are guys out there who care a great deal about modesty.
February 19th, 2007 at 4:18 pm
Thanks y’all.
Not all girls have dads or brothers as vocal as mine, and often they dress immodestly because of ignorance. Thanks for giving them an education. Somehow, coming from another girl, modesty talks aren’t always convincing. Other girls need to be confronted with the fact that if they dress defraudingly it DOES matter. May they choose to let your answers be instruction and correction.
Thanks for being willing to let us know how we can be more considerate of you. Hopefully, we will all take to heart what you have communicated. Y’all are bombarded everyday with sensuality from the world. You shouldn’t have to guard yourselves to the same extent around fellow believers.
“Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;)
And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works:
Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.
For if we sin will fully after that we have received the knowledge of the truth, there remaineth no more sacrifice for sins”
~Hebrews 10:23-26
Thanks for the exhortation.
Abby
February 19th, 2007 at 5:53 pm
What KLR said is SO true. For us girls that try to dress modestly, is is terribly discouraging to be “left behind” because of our stand. My mom has always told me that guys don’t really respect flirts, and I know that’s true, but when all we see is good guys “falling for” the girls we try not to be like, it is hard to belive they really respect US.
Also, KIT summed up so well exactly how at least I know I am. “So-and-so winked at me! Does he like me??” It’s dumb, I know, but it’s what we do.
Anyway, thanks so much to eveyone for working on this survey. It is amazing, and a big blessing to me.
And thank you to all the guys that respect us and then treat us like it.
February 19th, 2007 at 6:15 pm
i totally agree about doing an “emotional modesty” survey! i was talking to some friends about this very subject over the weekend and i think it would be so helpful to get the guys’ perspective on this!
February 19th, 2007 at 8:53 pm
Hey All,
I’m including an excerpt of an email I sent to one of my friends on Valentines Day, thanking him for taking part in the Modesty Survey. It pretty much explains itself, but really I hope you see as I did, God’s hand in what went on.
“I doubt you know how thankful I am…see…I’m the girl who asked if modesty was important in the midst of so much immodesty. I guess I was really getting discouraged and wondering if it what little I was doing made a difference, but I definetly know now that it does! Humph…I guess I’m a little emotional right now
I want to cry happy tears :), because my God is a God of strength and encouragement…. See it was a couple months ago when I was particularly discouraged [about modesty] and in my heart I cried out to Him and the Rebelution announced the modesty survey that day :). I asked my question and kinda left it at that; I read over the questions and didn’t see mine on there and I figured, well God and I had already talked about it and I was content with His answer. Yet today [Valentines day], on the day when He said “will you be mine?” (again :)) He reminds me how much He loves me and appreciates me, but also that guys [as a general group] do appreciate that I’m making an effort to be modest.”
Emotional purity also has come up and I just want to put my two cents in…For me, it’s easy to look for encouragement from a guy when I’m down, but I’ve found out that only God can give true, lasting encouragement! For all the girls out there, I highly, may I stress HIGHLY, reccomend reading the the thread “Why I am NOT saving my heart for my husband” on the Rebelution forum (in the Living Room and Attic). I’ve recently been telling my “single” friends that are girls “The trick to staying single is to fall in love.” I get wierd looks, because that seems so contradictary, but it’s not! Fall in love with JESUS! Falling in love with Him is the key to staying single and emotionally pure at the same time!
February 20th, 2007 at 12:07 pm
Katie: “I know that with all the work that everyone from The Rebelution just put into this survey, they probably don’t even want to think of another one yet…”
True. Hah, right when you finish one thing, another idea comes!
February 20th, 2007 at 1:53 pm
Great idea!
February 20th, 2007 at 3:54 pm
Thanks so much!
February 21st, 2007 at 10:08 am
To the Guys:
Thanks a million for all the straightforward advice and help that you have given through the Modesty Survey! I can’t tell you how much it has encouraged me to stay modest and pure! Sometimes I think nobody really cares or notices, and I was I ever proven wrong!
Thank you for caring enough to take the effort and do this for girls like me! God bless you for your gift of love, time, and honesty!
February 21st, 2007 at 12:05 pm
Dear brothers in Christ
THANK YOU SO MUCH! For pursuing humility by participating in this amazing tool of grace the modesty survey! I have learned so many helpful things by reading it (ie my brothers do lust after me when I am only wearing sweats around the house) how else would I be able to gain information like that that will help inform the way I live my life and what I ware. The culture has been lying to me and many other girls out there but this survey is going to be ground breaking when it comes to my personal modesty and we are going to discuss it at small youth group!
THANK YOU
February 21st, 2007 at 1:11 pm
Thank you, thank you, thank you. This survey absolutly made my Valentines day. My sister is going to a private college in Florida with limited internet access and so I read off some of the comments and questions every time I talk with her on the phone, she in turn shares it with her roomates and others on campus.
On the subject of a response to KLR and Stephanie about their complaint about not finding jeans that weren’t hip-huggers. I live in South Dakota and as far as avaliable clothing our stores are small (to match our towns) and thus we are very very very limited to clothing varieties. I used to think there was no such thing as modest pants but I have found a couple of jean brands that make comfortable jeans that are not hip-huggers yet not uncomfortably high. ex. Riders jeans and Zena jeans.
February 21st, 2007 at 3:48 pm
Amanda: You’re very welcome. Thank you for your encouragement. We are blessed to be a part of what God is doing.
Also, I did want to clarify regarding your comment about family members. The results do show that it can be a problem for some Christian guys when their sisters dress immodestly, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are lusting, only that they still have to avert their eyes. It also doesn’t mean that you cannot wear sweats around the house. I’d would recommend that you talk with your brothers about it. They’re the only ones who can give you the actual answer to that survey question. 
February 21st, 2007 at 7:22 pm
Amanda, where are sweats mentioned? I’m a bit puzzled; I can’t seem to find that.
February 21st, 2007 at 11:28 pm
Anna: Sweats (as used here) were never mentioned in the survey. Perhaps Amanda meant more than she communicated in briefly referencing them. However, I assume she was only using that as an example of something she thought may not be a good idea in light of the question about family members. I just recommended she check with her brothers on anything like that, since they are the only real authorities on the matter.
February 22nd, 2007 at 10:31 am
Thank you Thank you Thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
February 24th, 2007 at 1:26 pm
I just wanted to say how much I appreciated the survey. It was a great help to me as it helped validate the things I was already doing (wearing) and challenging me on areas I either needed to improve or didn’t even know were important! Thanks to all the people who participated…..God Bless!
February 26th, 2007 at 10:44 am
I recently stumbled across The Rebelution, and I’m awed by God’s timing. First of all, my sincerest thanks for the Modesty Survey. User friendly, it cleared up several issues I was confused on and definitely challenged what I too easily accept as the norms of a 21st century lifestlyle. Second of all, to Alex and Brett and all the rebelutionaries, this site has started . . . oops, school bell is ringing. Will finish later.
Be strong in the Lord and in His mighty power!
February 27th, 2007 at 10:14 am
finishing what I started saying . . .
Alex, Brett, and all the rebelutionaries, this site is the beginnings of the teenage revival I have been praying for for so long. I am pumped to be a part of it all!
Next thing I wanted to say, in browing through the site, I came across (I think it was Alex’s? but maybe Brett’s) a statement declaring a conviction that God was going to lead up a generation of Christian teenagers, specifically homeschooled, to shake up the world and lead hearts back to Him. I share your conviction and hope, but I want to encourage you not to define the Christ-following leaders of this generation as necessarily belonging to one category or another. I am one of few dedicated Christ-followers in a private high school, public or private high schools to serve God passionately is as committed as the desire of a home-schooled teen. There are different but all equally valuable perspectives that come from all sorts of backgrounds, and the body of Christ will have the greatest impact on the world when, as Paul says in 1 Corinthians, every part is contributing in a unified manner. The body of Christ is weak enough and divided as it is. Please don’t contribute to more division! Satan wants to see us divided because that will weaken our witness. “A house divided against itself cannot stand.” (Abraham Lincoln and the Bible) TOGETHER, we can change the world. Don’t deprive your brothers and sisters in Christ of their God-given purpose just because we aren’t homeschooled. My prayers are with you.
Let’s run with endurance the race that is set before us!
February 27th, 2007 at 12:02 pm
Caitlin: Welcome, sister! Our recognition of the fruits of homeschooling in our own lives and in others’ does not imply that other young people are second-class rebelutionaries. We need and welcome both, and I pray we can work together with you and others to make an even bigger impact on our generation. God bless you, Caitlin!
February 28th, 2007 at 6:40 am
ALex: Thanks. If there’s anything I can do in a practical way to help other than being faithful in my witness, let me know. Specific prayer requests, anything. By the way, is there a prayer chain in place? Something of the type where prayer requests for our nation, generation, etc. can be posted? Gotta fly.
In prayer,
March 9th, 2007 at 7:02 pm
I think it was great to put the Modest Survey together. I probably only know of a few guys who definitely care about modest dress on girls and to see so many guys reply is just AWESOME! Thanks so much for being honest to! Its great to know that there are guys out there care and a lot of them!!
Heather
March 9th, 2007 at 7:03 pm
Thank u ssooo much guys!
I hav 4 sisters, no brothers, so sometimes its hard for me to know exactly what guys think about the way girls dress. My parents do hav pretty high standards for the way me & my sisters dress, though, but sometimes its hard 4 me cuz i dont partically like being feminine. I enjoy huntin & ridin my horse and the outdoors in general. But I know i need to work on this area and this survey has helped me in some ways.
And it sure is a blessin to know that that ARE Christian men out there WHO CARE!
Thanx!!!
May 27th, 2007 at 9:56 pm
To all you Christian guys out there,
Don’t give up! Please live strong. After reading this I just cried and cried. I have been trying to glorify God through the way I dress for so long. When I read how you guys really do care I was just overwhelmed. Live it out guys. It is so hard to do the right thing when everyone else around you is doing the wrong thing and all that you try to do goes unnoticed. When you see a girl is glorifying God in all she does, thank her, tell her shes looking nice, let her know that you appreciate it. It will make all the difference for her and will really encourage her. Only once in my life has a guy done that and I will probably always remember that. Thanks to all you guys who are doing the right thing. Keep up the good work. And Girls, don’t give up. Obviously its worth it, to God and to our Christian brothers. Live deliberatley!
October 10th, 2008 at 5:31 pm
I think it’s a little late to sign the card
but I still want to thank all the guys for really taking the time to give their opinions on the survey. It has helped me sooo much! Thank you too Alex and Brett for putting it on your site! I got your book “Do Hard Things” at a homeschooling convention this year and when you talked about the survey I just had to check it out! It has been wonderful! I am going to tell all my freinds about it and this site!
THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Sarah.
March 10th, 2009 at 5:11 pm
I wish i could have signed the card thanking the guys for all their input on the survey, it surprised me how much guys really do care how we dress, and how much it makes a difference. it makes me so happy to know that guys notice and respect girls who are devoted to modesty. this survey will really help me to be modest and remember what guys think, and what i wear DOES make a huge difference on how guys see me. Even as i am only thirteen years old, this is something i will defidentally remember and try to live out.
Thank you, guys, so much!
Mary
March 10th, 2009 at 5:13 pm
I just want to say thank you guys so much for doing the survey and signing the petition! I’m going to mention this on my blog and tell my youth director about it. I think it’s awesome and it has been so helpful! Thank you so much for sharing and being honest!
Like Sarah K. said, it’s nice to know there are Christian guys out there who care.
Thank you thank you thank you!!!
Grace