Comments on: How To Spoil Do Hard Things http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/ reb•e•lu•tion (reb’el lu shen) n. a teenage rebellion against low expectations Fri, 12 Mar 2010 15:11:00 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7.1 hourly 1 By: G-Man (a dad) http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-512096 G-Man (a dad) Thu, 22 Oct 2009 13:52:32 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-512096 Man, I really appreciate you guys at Do Hard Things. I just periodically browse your website, because it's like a BIG shot of encouragement. Encouragement to encourage my 3 teens (well, oldest is 22). Sir, thanks for the reminder. Sarcasm=Discouragement. Encourage by creative support. Pray for them. Thanks again! Man, I really appreciate you guys at Do Hard Things. I just periodically browse your website, because it’s like a BIG shot of encouragement. Encouragement to encourage my 3 teens (well, oldest is 22). Sir, thanks for the reminder. Sarcasm=Discouragement. Encourage by creative support. Pray for them. Thanks again!

]]> By: Peggy V (a mom) http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-507042 Peggy V (a mom) Fri, 18 Sep 2009 14:18:56 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-507042 Point taken....But dearly beloved children, I don't think his point is for parents to not ask their kids to do things. I usually err in that direction. I was buying velcro shoes for my sixth grade son..... As a single, low-income mom, I usually think that their life is "hard enough" let's just survive and I ask them to do too little. Every once in a while I realize that if I keep this up they will not be able to even care for themselves and their living space when it is time to move out. Or worse yet they may never move out and on to adult life. I think the point is not to take a kid's excitement about "Doing Hard Things" and use it sarcastically or negatively and undermine their attempts to put it into practice. When I was a teen I would think about taking out the garbage, but somehow my dad coming along and telling me to take out the garbage made me not want to do it. In the army one time I had overnight duty, the sergeant in charge wasn't getting along with me, she waited until morning to tell us to strip, mop and wax a large floor after we had been awake all night and it was time to go. I was so angry, but the First Sergeant who understood the situation, still said that we still had to do it. It was a hard lesson that I still look back to after all these years. Sometimes we don't want to do it, we think its not fair, but we still have to do it. It's the right thing to do. Everyone want to do what they want to do. They want to choose the "Hard things" that they want to do and maybe......forget the (maybe not so) hard things that they don't want to do? Point taken….But dearly beloved children, I don’t think his point is for parents to not ask their kids to do things. I usually err in that direction. I was buying velcro shoes for my sixth grade son….. As a single, low-income mom, I usually think that their life is “hard enough” let’s just survive and I ask them to do too little. Every once in a while I realize that if I keep this up they will not be able to even care for themselves and their living space when it is time to move out. Or worse yet they may never move out and on to adult life.

I think the point is not to take a kid’s excitement about “Doing Hard Things” and use it sarcastically or negatively and undermine their attempts to put it into practice.

When I was a teen I would think about taking out the garbage, but somehow my dad coming along and telling me to take out the garbage made me not want to do it.

In the army one time I had overnight duty, the sergeant in charge wasn’t getting along with me, she waited until morning to tell us to strip, mop and wax a large floor after we had been awake all night and it was time to go. I was so angry, but the First Sergeant who understood the situation, still said that we still had to do it. It was a hard lesson that I still look back to after all these years. Sometimes we don’t want to do it, we think its not fair, but we still have to do it. It’s the right thing to do.

Everyone want to do what they want to do. They want to choose the “Hard things” that they want to do and maybe……forget the (maybe not so) hard things that they don’t want to do?

]]> By: Alli P. http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-472968 Alli P. Sun, 03 May 2009 19:35:38 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-472968 My family, and my mother specifically, really appreciate 'DO HARD THINGS'. It makes it much easier for me to kepp on track, because they know I'm trying and they usually keep me accountable. I think before I can do BIG Hard Things, I need to learn to do LITTLE Hard Things, such as keeping my room clean, and submitting to their judgements as my parents. After God has brought me into submission in those areas, Then I can be a more moldable piece of clay for God's glory. My family, and my mother specifically, really appreciate ‘DO HARD THINGS’. It makes it much easier for me to kepp on track, because they know I’m trying and they usually keep me accountable. I think before I can do BIG Hard Things, I need to learn to do LITTLE Hard Things, such as keeping my room clean, and submitting to their judgements as my parents. After God has brought me into submission in those areas, Then I can be a more moldable piece of clay for God’s glory.

]]> By: Jon T http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-418921 Jon T Sat, 07 Feb 2009 04:14:32 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-418921 Angie I.: I can sympathize with that kind of thinking too, but I think that it is probably a lot easier to do hard things when you have already done something really hard. :) Part of the reason that I reached that conclusion was because I read a story about two young people who traveled the whole Appalachian Trail. They said that after they were through, they just felt like they could do anything. Angie I.: I can sympathize with that kind of thinking too, but I think that it is probably a lot easier to do hard things when you have already done something really hard. :) Part of the reason that I reached that conclusion was because I read a story about two young people who traveled the whole Appalachian Trail. They said that after they were through, they just felt like they could do anything.

]]> By: Sarah Pena http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-324273 Sarah Pena Thu, 02 Oct 2008 23:20:39 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-324273 <i>"Has it</i> (hard things)<i>become merely another reason to bring down the laundry every day?"</i> Well for me it does mean much more than that but it does help me "bring down the laundry". When I have to do a job I think, "Do a hard thing!" and I pray for God to help me do it. It makes it a lot easier. Brett and Alex, Man is your dad good! I went to a homeschooling convention last July where he was one of the guest speakers but I had decided to go to some different sessions. Now I am really regretting I didn't make the time to hear him. :( God bless! Sarah. :) “Has it (hard things)become merely another reason to bring down the laundry every day?”

Well for me it does mean much more than that but it does help me “bring down the laundry”. When I have to do a job I think, “Do a hard thing!” and I pray for God to help me do it. It makes it a lot easier.

Brett and Alex,

Man is your dad good! I went to a homeschooling convention last July where he was one of the guest speakers but I had decided to go to some different sessions. Now I am really regretting I didn’t make the time to hear him. :(

God bless!

Sarah. :)

]]> By: Emily Scheerer http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-284867 Emily Scheerer Mon, 28 Jul 2008 23:54:35 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-284867 This is an interesting perspective on it, and while I agree that it shouldn't be a nagging kind of thing I am asking my dad to be a part of my goal to do hard things. I know that for me personally I will probably run out of steam by Christmas, because I'm lazy and it will be 'hard' for me to continue alone. So, while I can see the point, I think most of us should share this with our parents because it's not about doing hard things alone, it's about community. *Sorry if someone already said the equivalent to this, I haven't read all the other posts yet This is an interesting perspective on it, and while I agree that it shouldn’t be a nagging kind of thing I am asking my dad to be a part of my goal to do hard things. I know that for me personally I will probably run out of steam by Christmas, because I’m lazy and it will be ‘hard’ for me to continue alone. So, while I can see the point, I think most of us should share this with our parents because it’s not about doing hard things alone, it’s about community.

*Sorry if someone already said the equivalent to this, I haven’t read all the other posts yet

]]> By: Gabriela http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-225123 Gabriela Sun, 11 May 2008 21:54:52 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-225123 Well, I don't really share a lot of this with my parents,so I'm not sure how they would use it. I love this way of looking at "Do Hard Things" though and pray that this message reaches lots of parents. Smart Well, I don’t really share a lot of this with my parents,so I’m not sure how they would use it. I love this way of looking at “Do Hard Things” though and pray that this message reaches lots of parents. Smart

]]> By: Laura http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-183203 Laura Mon, 14 Jan 2008 19:33:33 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-183203 Mmmmmm.... I will try and try again to have good attitudes even when I despise cleaning Bathrooms! Mmmmmm…. I will try and try again to have good attitudes even when I despise cleaning Bathrooms!

]]> By: Tiffany http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-120650 Tiffany Mon, 03 Sep 2007 01:30:54 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-120650 Angie I.: I can totally sympathize with thinking, ok, i can hardly do my school and daily chores and all with a good attitude, much less write books, but i think that alot of times we may think that to minister we HAVE to move to Africa, or start a traveling ministry, but alot of times some of the most meaningful ministry is when you CAN do the laundry and school work with a good attitude and you can minister to your siblings by being patient and loving even when the are.. umm, annoying :) and you can help out extra when you can. Sometimes you have to have the desire to do more, then, instead of just jumping into writing your first book, you can work up to doing more and more of what you and your parents see as "Doing Hard Things" and ministering. Does that make sense? Also, I totally agree with alyssa when she says that you don't want to replace family time with "serving the lord" I have seen this alot and even at times in what i want to do, i look at it and see that it would cut into family time. :) Anyways, i know i am late looking at all this and posting about it and i am not sure if it all makes sense, but i do think that the way alot of teenagers act, doing their own sports, and extra things doing the minimal work to help out is definetly NOT doing hard things! :) Helping out with laundry never crosses some of their minds! It is sad. Angie I.: I can totally sympathize with thinking, ok, i can hardly do my school and daily chores and all with a good attitude, much less write books, but i think that alot of times we may think that to minister we HAVE to move to Africa, or start a traveling ministry, but alot of times some of the most meaningful ministry is when you CAN do the laundry and school work with a good attitude and you can minister to your siblings by being patient and loving even when the are.. umm, annoying :) and you can help out extra when you can. Sometimes you have to have the desire to do more, then, instead of just jumping into writing your first book, you can work up to doing more and more of what you and your parents see as “Doing Hard Things” and ministering. Does that make sense?

Also, I totally agree with alyssa when she says that you don’t want to replace family time with “serving the lord” I have seen this alot and even at times in what i want to do, i look at it and see that it would cut into family time. :)

Anyways, i know i am late looking at all this and posting about it and i am not sure if it all makes sense, but i do think that the way alot of teenagers act, doing their own sports, and extra things doing the minimal work to help out is definetly NOT doing hard things! :) Helping out with laundry never crosses some of their minds! It is sad.

]]> By: Angie I. http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-108735 Angie I. Thu, 02 Aug 2007 21:12:27 +0000 http://www.therebelution.com/blog/2007/07/how-to-spoil-do-hard-things/#comment-108735 For some people, being nice to their siblings and cleaning their room does constitute Doing Hard Things. It does for me. And when I read about people like the young lady Alyssa mentioned, I get really discouraged. I want to be one of those people who write books and play music and minister to people and all that, but how can I do that when I still have trouble helping my Mom do laundry? For some people, being nice to their siblings and cleaning their room does constitute Doing Hard Things. It does for me. And when I read about people like the young lady Alyssa mentioned, I get really discouraged. I want to be one of those people who write books and play music and minister to people and all that, but how can I do that when I still have trouble helping my Mom do laundry?

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