2015 was definitely a year of growing for me, so I have decided to share some of the lessons I learned.
1. Trust carefully.
This year I have acknowledged the fact that I trust people way too easily.
The reality is that people will disappoint you. It’s harsh, but it’s true and unfortunately it’s taken a few of these experiences for me to realize this. When you trust someone, you let down your walls and it is this vulnerability that can be so easily taken advantage of.
2. People come and go.
I see the people we encounter and connect with as one of two things: a message in a bottle or an anchor.
They either come into your life merely to teach you a lesson, then just as quickly they drift and move on to be picked up by someone else. Or they support, love and encourage you, holding you down when your seas get rough.
God will bring people into your life that are meant to be there and they can be a blessing or a lesson; sometimes even both, but just at different times. He can also take people out of your life just as quickly, but just remember that ultimately He sees the bigger picture and He knows what He is doing.
3. It’s okay to not be okay.
We all have ‘those’ days and I had my fair share in 2015. I have realized that I am a lot stronger than I thought.
But, of course, that only lasts a while, because as soon as you think you are getting your life back together, something else decides to laugh in your face and go ‘ha, not yet.’ You’re allowed to wake up and feel horrible.
You’re allowed to want to be alone and cry. You’re allowed to have those days. Don’t feel guilty for not feeling okay.
Just don’t forget that a bad day doesn’t mean you have a bad life. Don’t let a single situation you are facing determine your attitude toward everything else. Not all situations need a reaction.
Amid all of the chaos, ask yourself whether the situation that’s making you feel this way will matter this time next week, next month, or next year? Don’t let someone or something small and insignificant use up your energy unnecessarily and, as a result, hinder your happiness.
4. Just do you.
One of the biggest killers of happiness is constantly comparing yourself with other people, whether that be people we actually know or those Instagram famous ‘celebrities’ that pay for followers and look like they have the ‘perfect life.’
Real talk: society’s standards are messed.
I’ll be honest, I couldn’t count on one hand (let alone two) the amount of times I have compared my appearance to others. It’s a huge insecurity of mine and I struggle with it daily, but who is to say what the definition of beauty is?
I know, it is as cliché as my Year 10 creative writing piece for English, but sometimes the only way we understand it is to hear it a million times.
Not only do I compare myself to others, but I am also guilty of being a people-pleaser. I get really upset when I know that people aren’t happy with me and I hate losing friends over situations that could have been avoided.
If this is sounding familiar then my one piece of advice is just do you. It’s easier said than done and for me it’s a work-in-progress, but I won’t stop trying to be the best version of me I can.
5. Find your passion.
I love writing, if you can’t half tell. I also love food – eating it, that is. Cooking and cleaning are not quite my things.
But how can you find your passion by staying within the realms of your comfort zone? Try new things. Go on adventures. Fill up the car, grab a few friends and drive places you have never been before. Go camping. Learn a new language.
Don’t listen to TLC and go chase those waterfalls. Solo-travel. Go on a mission trip. Make a bucket list and actually tick things off!
What’s stopping you from doing what you love? What’s stopping you from finding your passion? And once you find that thing that makes you happy, hold onto it and don’t ever let it go.
So whether you have had an amazing year or you are keen to put this one away and start fresh with 2016, take this time to reflect on the memories, the challenges and the adventures that you have experienced this year.
I can guarantee that you aren’t the same person you were this time last year. We are constantly growing and maturing and it is our choice how we let these experiences impact us – positively or negatively.
What are you choosing?
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Wow! Thanks so much Jessica. It’s funny. I was just thinking about this the other day. 2015 shaped me in some crazy ways, some I’m still figuring out. Thanks so much for the article. It was very timely.
By the way. What do you like to write? I’ve been writing for years and I adore it.
I am so glad that you enjoyed it! 🙂
I love writing recounts of experiences I have had & using them as analogies for lessons to be learnt – my kind of way of finding God in everyday life 🙂 If you are interested, my blog is http://smile-withoutreason.blogspot.com.au/ Thank you! Don’t ever stop writing! Would love to read some of your work sometime x
I swear you are me, save the loving-to-write thing. Thanks so much- this is good to hear.
Great post! I’ll admit you summed up my 2015 pretty well with that. Thanks for the great reminders!
Thanks for writing this great post!
Nice Job Jessica, You can not stay in your comfort zone and live out all that God has for you. I have found that Man (as in people) will always fall short of are expectations and that the only one that is always quiet nudging you in the right direction is are Father and the one who cheers us on Jesus Christ.
Wow! that is really good. and me…