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When Christmas Isn’t Merry

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December is here, and with it, an enormous amount of rich foods and idealistic Instagram posts.

Christmas means icicle lights and Santa hats. Cute sweaters, gingerbread ice cream, and cozy evenings watching Elf.

But for me, the holidays bring a harsh reality: I don’t live in that wonderland.

The struggle is real this winter. And whether it’s family issues, learning how to live without someone, or depression, we’re left with pain we don’t know what to do with. And for those of us who are suffering, the sappy-sweet ideal of Christmas only makes our trials more obvious. There is a festive sort of pressure to look happy — and sometimes, that’s all it takes to break us.

Because, let’s be real, some of us are not happy. Some of us face painful realities that feel like the exact opposite of “peace on earth”. There are mornings when we don’t know how we’ll make it through the day, nights when we barely make it to sunrise. In a world cursed by sin, pain is a constant.

And God has not promised to take away our pain. (Not yet anyway.)

But he entered our world of pain.

He took on flesh. He came into a world of family struggles and betrayal. He felt the tension of broken relationships, even when he had done nothing wrong.

He knew physical agony. He had skin that bled and tore and radiated pain. He cried so hard that the capillaries in his face burst and made him sweat blood.

Jesus knows what it is to hurt.

And he knows our pain, in every heart-wrenching detail. He sees it and He cares.

But, he’s still causing it. So, don’t you think he has a reason? We know his love because he came. So if he’s still giving us trials, don’t you think the end-goal is going to be worth it? He has to be doing something.

Somehow, this — yeah, this — is good for us. He has promised us that.

Somehow, someday, these tears will bring us joy. And we will be a thousand times happier for having cried.

He may not remove our struggles as quickly as we would like, but He has promised to wipe away our tears (Revelation 7:17). One day suffering will be no more (Revelation 21:4). And in the meantime, its working for our good (Romans 8:28).

“So we do not lose heart… For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison [.]” (2 Corinthians 4:16-17)

We don’t understand it yet, but these trials are working for us. They feel heavy and long right now, but the reward will make it seem like nothing. This will be worth it.

So keep going.

Hold on to these promises. Recite them on your way to that ugly sweater party, write them on your arm. Find good music — Christmas-y or not — and let your headphones pump life and truth back into your mind. Look for songs that speak to these promises.

Read the psalms. Pray through them and let their poetry give you words for your pain.

As sufferers, we may not be able to take the thought of the holidays as a whole. So don’t. Focus on the present. God will give you grace to drive to the store, just like He’s giving me strength to write this article. You may not get everything done, but by grace, you can do this next thing.

To be honest, this probably won’t be the happiest Christmas. But that’s okay. Even if the tears keep coming, God is with us. He meets us in our weakness, and maybe, that’s the whole point of this pain.

So don’t be afraid to cry. You’re tears will give you more of God.

Hold on to hope, dear, and go eat some pie.

“Let living water satisfy
The thirsty without price.
We’ll take a cup of kindness yet
All glory be to Christ.”


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Faye C'Naim

(pronounced "fake-name") is someone who, having first donned her alias as a security measure, has grown rather attached to the old thing and plans to keep it. She hopes her writing helps and encourages you.

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