rebelling against low expectations

Questions To Ask When You Feel Distant From God


Have you ever felt abandoned by God– like He’s not even there? Or, even if He is there, it’s like He doesn’t really care?

I’ve felt this way before. Multiple times, actually. I’ve often wondered why God wasn’t speaking in my life. Or if He’d ever really spoken in my life. I’ve thought to myself, “God… do You really care? Are You really even there at all?” To put it another way, I felt… abandoned, like God had left me to fend for myself.

The Israelites felt the exact same way, thousands of years ago, after a long period of silence from God. We find this story in 1 Samuel, Chapter 7, verses 1-9. Read through that for me real quick, then let’s dive right in!

The Story

Last time, we left off with the Israelites suffering a major defeat because of their misplaced hope in the Ark of the Covenant. Since then, through a very interesting series of events, they get the Ark back. But they soon realize that it’s no more helpful to them now then it was before, because God wasn’t there. Verse 2 puts it all-so-clearly:

“The Ark Remained in Kiriath-jearim for a long time – twenty years in all. During that time, all Israel mourned because it seemed the Lord had abandoned them.” – 1 Samuel 7:2 NLT (emphasis mine)

Twenty years of silence. God was distant and they had no idea why. Could you imagine being cut off from God for 20 years? At the time of writing this article, that’s longer then I’ve been alive! And yet, for twenty years, they were cut off from God… why?

We find the answer in verse 3…“Then Samuel said to all the people of Israel, ‘If you want to return to the Lord with all your hearts, get rid of the foreign gods and images of Ashtoreth. Turn your hearts to the Lord and obey Him alone, then He will rescue you from the Philistines.’” – 1 Samuel 7:3

Wait a minute… return to the Lord? Wasn’t it “the Lord” who left us– wasn’t it God who abandoned us?

Or… was it?

You know, every time I feel distant from God, I assume it’s because God has moved away. But here, it seems to break that assumption. What if it isn’t God who’s moved away from us… what if it’s us who have moved away from God?

In the later part of verse 3, Samuel explains what he means, saying, “get rid of the foreign gods”. At this point, most of us just gloss over this part without giving it a second thought. Or, some of us might chuckle a little at the stupidity of these people. I mean, who’s stupid enough to carve a wood statue and somehow delude themselves into actually believing that that stupid piece of wood is somehow an all-powerful god?

Believe it or not… we are.

You see, back in that day, the people of that time used wood and stone to symbolize something that was important to them. Whether that be good weather, peace from their enemies, financial success, or sexual pleasure. They look at that thing they wanted to pursue with their life and personalized it to something they could see. From there, they just justified it to themselves that what they believed was right, and eventually even believed it.

You see, as stupid as that sounds, it’s actually very similar to what we do today. We all have those things that we naturally make the most important in our lives: our money, our status, our enjoyment, etc. The only difference between us and them is this: they realized that whatever a person makes most important in their life must demand total allegiance.

And if you look, you’ll see: the college student who wrecks the life of his girlfriend because he got her pregnant and made her a single mother– all for a few moments of passion. The corporate executive who squeezes his workers tight because he’s blinded by his greed. The teenager who disrespects her parents because they won’t let her go to that popular party because it’s too late at night. That young person who sits and waits passively, because he’d rather do nothing and enjoy his laziness. What do all these people have in common?

Something in their lives took the place of God, at one point or another. Something that demanded to be served, at the expense of anything and anyone else. Something took the place of God. For the Israelites and for us, it all comes down to the same thing: what do you serve? Is it God or something else? Money? Power? Pleasure? Your job? What do you serve?

So right now, I want you to think about the question and try to answer it honestly. Not, “what do I want to serve?” but “what do I actually serve?” Ask yourself these questions:

What things do I spend the most time on?

What kind of things do I use my money on?

Where do I exercise the most effort?

What causes me to worry or get angry the most when it’s taken away?

What do I think about more than anything else?

What am I most scared of losing?

Where do I place my security?

What makes me do stupid stuff I later regret?

So, is there anything you need to throw away in your life, to come back to the loving presence of God? Let’s talk in the comments section below!

Editor’s Note: this article was previously published in January 2018.

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Trent Blake

is a 24-year-old evangelical Christian, author, and apologist. His passion is to glorify God through a life lived in light of the gospel. Trent is the editor-in-chief of and the author of Consider Christianity: Using Evidence to Examine the Religion of Jesus - a concise evangelistic tool perfect for giving away to skeptical friends and coworkers. Additionally, Trent has authored over a half dozen free e-booklets on theology and apologetics.


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  • This hits SO many ways!!! I’ve been doubting and struggling for soo long. Been hurting and felt like I was alone…but the problem has been on my side not God’s. Furthermore the questions are amazing!! Thanks for making this article, it’s made a difference!!!

  • Hi, uhm. I’m nota very sure of writing this but, for almost all of they questions, I answer My self, my school, yes, I think about God almost everyday but it doesn’t means he’s My number one. I’m in a good school with very inteligent people, anda recently my pastor preached us about they responsability that you have in they place you and I know that I’m nota in that school to be my Best version and been recognised and to people give me acomplishments, I’m in they exact place that I need to be for God be glorified but, how do I make it?

    • Hi Valeria! I think we can glorify God in the “big” things, but often it starts with the small things. For example, I believe we glorify God when we do our schoolwork and chores faithfully, well and without complaining. Or when we’re patient with our siblings, obey our parents, and go out of our way to do something nice for someone else. Forgiving other people is also another way we glorify God, and something I’m definitely working on right now (it’s also a lot of personal character development). Generally speaking, I believe we glorify God when we love Him and the people around us, and when we let that love overflow into action. Hope that helps a bit! 🙂

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