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Is it okay for Christians to participate in truth or dares?


GABRIELLE WRITES: I have mixed feelings about this topic. It seems that it might be okay as long as the dare is not anything illegal or dangerous, right? The dare could even be something like, “Share your salvation testimony with someone,” or “Don’t say anything negative to your siblings.”

Overall, is it really okay? Is it just a waste of time? Since it’s something the world started should we, as Christians, even participate? Please share your thoughts! Thanks!

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  • I think it is a good idea not to play it unless before you play you make the following agreements:
    1) Nothing illegal
    2) Nothing wrong
    3) and nothing is to be asked that is privet (if the person is uncomfortable in telling don’t press for an answer .
    That is just what I think that will help to keeping safe in the game.

    • It also depends on who you play with. Like if you play with like minded people that just want to have fun without hurting others or doing wrong things. It makes it easier and more fun to play.

  • To me, this is like saying “is it okay for Christians to play Monopoly? After all, the world started it and they’re teaching that you should be selfish and buy as much stuff as you can before other people.” Or “should we play tag? It can be dangerous, and kids get injured all the time.” It’s just for fun, and you can always stop playing Truth or Dare if you don’t feel comfortable with what’s being asked.

  • I agree with Gabrielle and Hannah! I think playing games are optional and you always stop. You most likely would play this with friends and if they ‘pressure’ you to tell them something you don’t want to tell, they aren’t really true friends (in my opinion)
    I do play this game sometimes at sleepovers (they are usually at my house, anyway) and we mostly get bored with it because we can’t think of
    1) Good ‘Truth’ questions
    2) Good ‘Dares’
    Or 3) We were too tired to play
    *shrugs* I hope this helps you, Gabrielle!

  • I’ve participated in Truth or Dare many times, with limits. Never “I dare you to kiss the person to your left” or any of that crap. Personally I’m not a big fan of it. I have seen my Christian friends get out of hand with that game and I would rather not face the temptation. If you can play it with restrictions and limits, I say go for it. But if you know it could cause you to stumble, don’t bother.

    • If you and your friends come up with the truth and the dare I think it’ll be fine. Thanks for your thoughts Brooklyn.

  • I think it’s fine, as long as you aren’t sharing truths or dares that are wrong/bad. It can get out of hand though, so you have to be careful. And just trust each other enough that you would stop if questions got to personnal. Personally I don’t really like the game cause it always ends up being who is your crush and stuff, but you could totally change it to be a really good game! It can be a waste of time, but so can all games. It could also be a fun way to get to know people, and do some silly dares with a group of friends.

  • I think that like a lot of things, whether or not to play Truth or Dare depends on you. There’s nothing wrong with it in itself, and it can be fun; but if you find yourself saying or doing things you don’t feel right about, then stop. (For myself, playing Truth or Dare is not such a good idea because it often encourages me to say things about myself which aren’t necessarily true.) Of course it’s “Okay”–as long as you know you’re not hurting your own conscience or wasting your time. There are things which the world started which can be fun or helpful, and sadly there are also things that the church started which can often be very damaging. I think the important thing for us is to stay focused on serving God and keeping our lives open to Him. And having fun is a perfectly good thing to do!

    Hope this helps πŸ™‚

    • It’s really great if you and the people you’re playing with come up with the dare and the truth. It could be a getting to know you game, or you can be challenged to grow in Christ.

      • Good point. For “getting to know you,” things like that can be great. (I guess for it to help you grow in Christ you really need to play it with the right people 😊)

  • That would be kind of like asking, “Should a Christian go to a restaurant that serves beer?” If the Christian is tempted to get drunk on beer, then no, he shouldn’t. If it’s not a problem for him, then it’s fine. Same with truth or dare. You could take the game in so many directions, but then again, you could take a lot of games in so many different directions. So my final answer: It depends. Very specific, I know. πŸ˜›

  • I pretty much agree with everyone else. If you have a good Christian view of the game then let that apply to you while you play it. If not, steer clear from the game at all.

  • 1 Cor. 10:23, “All things are lawful, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful, but not all things edify.”

    It’s not wrong to play truth or dare. However, whether or not it’s a good idea is another story! It all depends on the people you’re playing with. Are they other mature Christians, or they simply trying to clown off and be the absolute silliest they can be? If the latter, that might be a good time to call it a night and head home, or just quietly excuse yourself to the kitchen for some more cookies! If the former, enjoy yourself, tell the truth, and don’t ask other people too awkward of questions!

  • Playing Truth or Dare isn’t wrong in itself, but it often causes folks to stumble. Personally i don’t bother with it, in general. But, if you can make the game profitable/God honoring (which hugely depends on who you play with), then go for it!

    • I’d only play if the truth and dares were wholesome if you will. Something with substance, like, “What is your favorite scripture?” (truth), or “Go tell a complete stranger Jesus loves them” (dare).

  • I agree with what others are saying. Truth or dare itself isn’t good or bad. The game could go either way, depending on who you are playing with. For me, as a conservative Christian at a public school, it’s something I try to avoid as the conversation tends to deteriorate rapidly.

  • My answer to this question might be biased because I actually despise the game truth or dare. I have been known, on occasion, to play a few rounds with my cousins though. We never dare anything unacceptable and we keep the game completely legal and clean. Mostly we just do it so we have an excuse to act stupid. =p But I wouldn’t advise playing the game with anyone who you know has lower standards. I also wouldn’t advise downloading the truth or dare app on the app store as it contains some inappropriate material. But overall, truth or dare is a harmless pastime. If it’s something you enjoy, keep it clean and go for it. Whatever you do, remember to represent Christ well and honor him with your actions and your attitude. Keep it real. =)

  • This is an interesting question, and to be honest, I had never even considered it, but I can see where you’re coming from. Personally, I don’t think it’s a bad thing, and as you pointed out, you could easily make it into a very good thing. But just like anything, there must be limitations. I think as long as you are not doing anything Biblically incorrect as a result of the game, it’s perfectly fine. In fact, you could even turn it into a challenge. You could challenge yourself to turn it into a spiritual game where you challenge your friends in the Word.

          • Ah, ok. I’ve only ever played it in person. By the way, I didn’t have a phone for a really long time either. I don’t know how you feel about it, but I’d just say to not be in a rush to get one. My productivity took a serious hit after I did!
            Well, what I meant was “just curious”. It can mean different things though, depending on the context…but I can see now that my context was a bit ambiguous, if that’s what you meant. :/ I’m going to go change it now. πŸ™‚

          • Yup. One of those things that only occurs to you after the fact. Thankfully, unlike real life, the Internet has an edit button. πŸ˜‰
            I didn’t get one until I was fourteen, but I barely used it. I got a smart phone when I was fifteen, though, and wow…those things can be addicting. But, anyway, good for you! πŸ™‚

          • Same here! The first few times I saw “JC” on here, I thought, Wow, they say that?!?!

  • I think it really depends on who you’re playing with. For example, I only play with church friends because I know they won’t go over. Even with that, I always make sure there are rules and guidelines for what the dare can be. Even with both of those, I always pick truth. πŸ™‚
    But as for the “the world started it” view, I think that just because the world started something doesn’t mean we should completely avoid it. For example, just because Steve Jobs, who is NOT Christian, used to own Apple doesn’t mean that it was wrong to buy Apple products (BTW, I always go Android :P).
    Does this answer the question?

  • If the group you’ll be playing with is negative then, no: the dares or challenges will probably be negative too…

    If the group you’ll be playing with is positive then, yes: the dares or challenges will more than likely be “more” positive… or at least they’ll be open to “more” positive suggestions…

  • A lot of great things have already been said, but I’ll try to add what I can. πŸ™‚

    First…it is just really hard to make Truth or Dare into a fun game! And I think that’s largely because the world has basically set a very anti-Christian template for what the game should be, and, in trying to avoid that, it’s difficult to think of good alternatives.

    That being said, I have, at times, had a lot of fun with it! πŸ™‚ I think a good way to make it enjoyable is to play among other people (preferably friends, though) who don’t realize you’re playing it. I’ve found that if everyone’s in on it, it’s very hard to think of anything fun. But Iif they don’t know what’s going on, the silliest (and cleanest!) things become hilarious as your friends try to figure out when exactly you went crazy. XD

    So…that kind of turned into a how-I-play sort of thing. Just what was on my mind (hopefully it made some sense!).

  • There are a lot of things that have been “started by this world” but we still do/use them. Of course we shouldn’t do or use anything that goes against God. Truth or Dare is just a game, just like Monopoly and Scrabble are games. As long as you don’t’ do anything bad, cheat, or spell a bad word, I think it is okay! πŸ™‚

  • One thing that I know for sure is that God wants us to have fun and laugh.

    “He will yet fill your mouth with laughter and your lips with shouts of joy.” Job 8:21 NIV In the Book of Ecclesiastes is says,”a time to weep and a time to laugh” Ecclesiastes 3:4 NIV

    I think that the litmus test for me in the pursuit of “fun” is answering the question, Would Jesus participate in this if He were here? I think that there were many times that Jesus as a human being laughed and had fun with the disciples. If Jesus lives in me, Galatians 2:20, He is always participating in what I do.

  • I think it’s a powerful tool that can be used with good discretion. Like Paul, we should be savvy and knowledgeable about the culture we live in. We are called to live in the world but not of it. We are also called to take every thought captive to the obedience of Christ. Paul was savvy of the cultures he visited. He used things of those cultures so he could relate to them build fellowship and preach the Gospel to them. We should emulate the examples set by our Lord Jesus Christ and the Apostle Paul

  • I personally believe there are only two commandments that God requires us to follow (I could go on for a while about how I believe when we take up our cross we do what my pastor calls “strapping ourselves to the electric chair” but that is a whole different discussion). Anyways, I believe as long as you don’t deny God as savior or hurt others, it is all right. Feel free to contradict me, my beliefs are a little different and shady than those of the typical Christian.

  • As far as “the world started it”, my Pastor says, “are we going to be a thermometer church or a thermostat church?
    i.e.. are we going to say what is happening (like a thermometer) or be the ones making things happen (like a thermostat).
    Slightly irrelevant to the DQ? Perhaps. But this is what came to mind πŸ™‚

  • I really only played truth or dare for the first time (that I remember) a few weeks ago. It was at a close friend’s sleepover, and there were only Christian girls there. We didn’t do anything bad, and it pretty much turned into “truth-or-truth” because no one could come up with any good dares (and we were also too tired at 1am to do anything but talk!). I honestly am not sure what truth-or-dare would be like with unbelievers (or just kids who are “experienced” darers). I think that it’s ok to play if you’re in a group that you trust. I would only play with kids that I knew wouldn’t ask me to say or do anything that would be hurtful to me or anyone else. Also, as long as you don’t do anything that would get you in trouble with God, your parents, or the law then I think it’s ok

    • You’re right. It doesn’t really matter where it came from, just what is shared/dared/asked. And I’ll just say that things can get pretty raunchy in unbelievers’ truth or dare games. I’ve never actually played the game (it seems more like a girl thing anyway), but I’ve heard of some pretty bad stuff that can go on. Just like in any game really.

      Hey, I haven’t seen you on here in a while. How have you been?

      • I’ve been doing well:) the next four weeks are going to be crazy for me! I erg tested yesterday (I got a personal record!), and I have two weeks of hard rowing practice and then a regatta in Oak Ridge TN at the end of April. After we get back from that, we’ll erg test again, have two more weeks of hard training to set final boat line-ups, and then we have regional championships! It’s kinda scary to think that we only have four weeks left of the season (O_O). I’m hoping and praying that a lot of our boats qualify for nationals!

        Besides all the rowing craziness, I’ve been working on my research paper outline for the past week. I’m having a hard time with it because I can’t seem to narrow my focus. I’m doing vaccines, but I can’t figure out a specific focus, I’ve thought about arguing that the gov. shouldn’t mandate all vaccines (just for the life-threatening diseases) but I don’t really have a lot of hard external evidence to support my “why?”. I would have to follow critical thinking instead of using articles and sources. Gagh, please pray that I can get this outline done! I have the outline due tomorrow, and then next week we write the rough draft, and then next week is the final draft. This paper counts for like 15-20% of my final grade, and I’m trying not to stress about it! How have you been?

        • Cool! You’ll have to remind me, what’s the erg test again?

          I’ve been working on my research paper too. I’m doing it on global warming. It’ll be persuasive enough to convince Al Gore that he’s wrong! (Sorry, I’m not sure if you’ll catch that). Anyway, the pressure is starting to get to me too.

          I’m also a little uptight because our first deadline for the movie I’m writing is coming up. My friend and I (we’re both writing) are hoping to get it to our youth pastor in May, then we’ll start auditions and film dates. I’ve never undertaken a project this big, and I’m hoping that it’ll be the thrill of a lifetime. I’ll tell you more about it (as long as you want to hear it of course and I haven’t told you about it already).

          So that’s my life, in addition to school, which I will be wrapping up soon.

          We’ve been having quite a few Apologetics discussions on here lately, so I’ll ask you a question regarding it (well, sort of). Have you ever heard of Summit Ministries?

          • Ok, so we have multiple types of erg tests that we do, depending on the race season. All erg tests evaluate endurance, speed, and pain tolerance (which is always “fun”…) Our fall races are 5-6k, so we usually do 4k and 6k erg tests. Fall racing consists of time trials, with boats rowing down the course in single file. In the spring, we have 2k tests. Spring season is really the most important part of rowing, with 2k’s being a rowing staple (every rower knows the horror that is the 2k test!). In spring 2k races, about 6 boats at a time race head-to-head (it’s almost like horse racing:)What erg tests don’t evaluate is the proper form of a rower (or lack thereof) and ability to keep time with the rest of the boat. So coaches conduct seat-races, which involve racing different combinations of rowers to see who makes the boats go the fastest:) Spring season is the best! The races are really intense to watch (especially the varsity boys, their races are nail biters!)I love regattas because of the energy of all the people and also the excitement of getting to stay in hotel with your friends and whatnot. So that’s the basic science (it’s probably WAY more info then you wanted=P sorry!)

            Oh that’s a fun topic! Al Gore annoys me, so please, by all means! Prove him wrong! I would love to hear more about your film:) It sounds really awesome:) What is it about? I’ve heard ABOUT Summit Ministries, I just don’t know exactly what they do (pretend that the all-caps “about” is italicized, idk how to italicize…) What exactly do they do?

          • Sounds intense! That must make your pretty strong after a while. I’m hoping to get into some intense martial arts myself. The stuff I’ve been doing is pretty okay, but I want to do some of the stuff that Jason Bourne (ever heard of him?) does in his movies. And hey, I like being informed! πŸ™‚

            Yeah, Al Gore is pretty wacky. Did you know that he gave a date that he believes the world will end? He thinks it’ll end next year from overheating and pollution. And in fact, Rush Limbaugh (have you heard of him either?) has a timer counting down to it. It’s ridiculous.

            Summit Ministries is based in Colorado and it helps high school and college students with apologetics on college campuses. They have week-long workshops throughout the summer each year that give students a taste of liberal bias on campus, all the different views you’ll see and how to combat that them, stuff like that. A lot of my relatives have gone, and I’ll probably go my junior or senior year in high school, since my parents really like their curriculum. They also have apologetics courses that count as college and high school credits for homeschoolers. It can be a little expensive, but I have thoroughly enjoyed their books and have learned a lot, so I highly recommend it.

            So, what are some of your other hobbies besides rowing and music (or do you have any others)?

  • This is rather a specific topic. If it was contained in just the truth or dare game, then I’d say it’s not really a big deal, and you can take each instance as it comes and decide from there. But, if this could be more generalized to something like all petty games and pastimes that were created by non-Christians, then I would say what others have already said: we are to live in the world but not of it. If you feel uncomfortable playing it, then don’t play it. If not, and you know your friends won’t force anything bad upon you, then I don’t think it’s a sin or anything to play it.

  • Hi πŸ™‚ I’m kind of new here so…yeah. Anyway personally, I think that the game itself is perfectly fine as long as the dares don’t get too out of hand, and the truth questions aren’t too probing. I have played a lot of truth or dare games, but only with people I trust, and only with limits (although most of the time I played with the same people so they became unspoken limits). I think this has been said before, though…oh well πŸ™‚

  • ok here is what i think…. why the hay are we even having this conversation??? i mean, i have played truth or dare with my sister, and with some christian friends. nothing wrong with it, as long as the dares dont go to far, or get too dangerous

  • There are a lot of Christian practices that have been subverted by the world. Take for instance the idea of “Cheers” (toasting in a bar) that originated with Jesus saying; “Be of good cheer, for I have overcome the world.” He toasted at the last supper with communion. I say that if we can use a worldly game to further the gospel why not? Play treasure hunt with dares. Pull strangers in to prophesy over them. Use it as an icebreaker at youth getaways. So long as it is not harmful, illegal or wrong there is nothing wrong with playing a game.

  • I don’t think that the problem is playing the game but the fact that we are stuck on this rather than the bigger picture. Today the Christian community tends to worry about the little things like playing truth or dare rather than worrying about spreading the gospel and worrying about living the Christian life. Doing hard things is about challenging yourself and I would hope that it would be understood that when playing a game of truth or day or another game of the sort that you would keep the dares or truths acceptable. Not everything you do you should have to revolve around spreading your testimony. The way in which you live your life should be enough of a testimony to your Christian values. I have had ministers who have gone to every party when they were growing up, not to party, but to carry a bible around in their back pocket and hang out with the people who need to here the word the most. These are the kind of things that we, as the younger generation, should be involved in. As soon as we realize this think of the potential of ministry there is. As Christians, we have made a lot of rules that if we really think about are holding us back rather than helping us succeed.

  • I personally think that Christians are too caught up in ‘having a good time’ and that Truth or Dare can be good but most of the time it can be quite distracting. In my experience I have found that it holds me back from deeper conversations with people. We played it on a missions trip and I was shocked at how shallow the questions were especially coming from people I had thought were strong Christians. They wanted me to ‘lick the bus roof’ and ‘share who my crush was’ and I felt it was so shallow that it was merely wasted time. I think that instead of asking ‘Is it wrong to play this game?’ we should ask ourselves if it will draw us nearer to Christ. In fact, in Romans 14 Paul writes about this issue. Not should we play ‘truth or dare?’ but ‘should we eat food sacrificed to idols?’. Paul ends the chapter by saying ‘Do you have faith? Have it to yourself before God. Happy is he who does not condemn himself in what he approves. But he who doubts is condemned if he eats because he does not eat from faith for whatever is not from faith is sin’
    Basically saying: reconcile yourself before God and if you have doubts avoid even the possibility of letting sin have a way in.
    Further I would say it shouldn’t be about ‘us’ but rather those around us and so we should ask ourselves (As Paul recommended in Romans 14:15-16) whether or not we are stumbling others in what we do.

  • At the Bible Camp I got to every summer with my sisters (they attend as campers, I as a helper), the girls always play Truth or Dare. It starts out harmless enough, with little dares that are just silly, but after a few rounds, it gets WAY out of hand. I have never joined in on the game when they play it because it always ends the same way. I mean, the campers are ages 8-13! And the things they come up with… it’s just ridiculous. The leaders of the cabin find out, but always after the game is over. So… it’s kind of hard to know what to do. πŸ˜›

    Otherwise, I think Truth or Dare would be okay, as long as it’s not overdone.

  • I think it’s fine as long as it doesn’t get out of hand. The farthest it tends to go with my friends is usually something that’s like embarrassing but harmless, you know?

  • I go to a Christian school and I have a friend who recently played truth or dare (over text) with a guy who is in our school. To make a long story short, she ended up sending him a picture of herself in a bikini, along with throwing in dozens of curse words. Her parents found out and she is currently grounded; her parents are very mad at her. She is an easily persuaded person who will do what you tell her to (which saddens me), and she does not see anything majorly wrong with what she did. She just laughs about it and says her parents are over-reacting. Any advice on how to help her? I am already trying to keep her away from this “Christian” guy.

  • It depends on the situation. I saw someone below relating it to Romans 14, the passage on eating food sacrificed to idols. I think it really depends on your situation. Who are you with? Friends you trust? Other Christians, or people with a different religion? Is there anyone there who is likely to be influenced to show less discretion by this? (For instance, you play truth or dare with her, so she decides it’s okay to play it in ANY circumstance.)

  • maybe the rebelution is a dare. ‘dare to do hard things’? I think that dares are ok as long as you do not get into any trouble with them. like really, be smart!

  • I think it depends on a few different thing.

    1: The dare. If the dare is inappropriate or involves something that you think is wrong or you know your parents think would be wrong. For instance(this is a bit embarrassing) When I was 7 I was obsessed with mermaids, and I loved anything that was even remotely related to the sea. So one time I was with some friends. They saw me looking at an Ariel bubble blower. A few days later I was with them and they were like lets play truth or dare… i chose dare and they told me to run around a parking lot and scream” I’M A GIRL!!!” That was where I drew the boundaries with those friends.

    2: Is the dare going to have a positive or negative affect on you?

    3: Are you going to regret this decision later in life?

  • I have played truth or dare several times but hear are the things I check with first.
    1. I make sure everyone is in agreement to not do anything that could embarrass someone. no making them say who they like or anything like that. if they wanted to tell you who they liked they would have don’t pressure them.
    2. Don’t dare them to do something that could get them in trouble. being a good friend means care for your friends. be nice.

  • My dad has talked to me about this subject. All in all, it’s not a very good game to play. I’m not saying it’s evil. It’s just that, like some people said, it can get out of hand. Even if everybody promises not to dare anything bad, it will most likely happen. Another thing about this game is that it sometimes forces you to do something you know is wrong. Or say something you know is wrong. Which, of course, is not a good thing. So in the end, it’s just a stumbling block that you shouldn’t be participating in.

  • I believe that it is alright to participate in a game of truth or dare, but only under the circumstances that everyone knows that there is going to be nothing bad involved. I dont believe that true or dare is a religion thing, but i do believe that if it gets out of hand, it can turn into something that goes against our Christian beliefs. So if playing it, just be careful and make wise decisions! πŸ™‚

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