rebelling against low expectations

How To Become a Real Man (According to God)


I’m a guy.

I like climbing trees, video games and rock music. I’m also becoming a man and learning how to best glorify God through my life. That means I’m different than 90% of the guys I meet.

But why is it that I’m so different?

The Call

In 1 Corinthians 13:11 Paul said, “When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.” Paul understood what it meant to grow up. He knew it meant to put off your childish ways and become a man – specifically, a godly man.

What does it mean to put off your childish ways, though? Does it mean you can’t play video games anymore, you can’t climb trees, and you have to only listen to Beethoven?

No, it means you’re learning to do the hard things in life, the things you don’t like but you know will most glorify God.

It means putting down your video game controller and picking up your Bible every day.

It means serving others in your free time.

It means understanding that you have a responsibility to God and others to work your hardest no matter what you’re doing.

The Struggle

What does a godly man look like? First of all, to be a godly man one’s sole purpose in life must be to glorify God. This is the foundation of Christianity, seeking God’s glory above your own.

I struggle with this. I like to exalt myself and show that I am clearly the most superior being in existence. But this cannot be what the life of a godly man is centered around.

A godly man must realize that without God, he would be nothing, but with God he is something. He is a holy child of God redeemed by the blood of Christ. And that is something worth glorifying God for.

Second, a godly man recognizes the value and benefit of wisdom. You can find that very clearly in the book of Proverbs. Proverbs is filled to the brim with advice to the young man telling him that if he keeps wisdom close to his heart, he will be blessed.

As Solomon says in Proverbs 3:13, “Blessed is the one who finds wisdom, and the one who gets understanding, for the gain from her is better than gain from silver and her profit better than gold.”

This doesn’t mean that if you have wisdom, you’ll be successful in the worldly sense. What it does mean is that if you make the right decisions in life, if you make choices that will benefit you in the long run, if you always ask yourself what would most glorify God in any decision, you will be content and joyful in Christ and what He is doing in your life.

The Result

A common problem with guys these days is that they don’t grow up anymore. They spend their lives lazily bouncing around from job to job trying to find the easiest path that pays the most. There comes a point in every boy’s life when he has to become a man, and, sadly, many boys never reach that point. They listen to the media which tell them that they can be dumb and lazy for the rest of their lives.

But a godly man doesn’t listen. A godly man drowns out the incessant noise of the world with the glorious promises of God and lives a life that is glorifying to God.

That’s what I’m striving to be. That’s why I’m different.

Are you?

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About the author

Travis Crowe

is a homeschooled 16-year-old from eastern Canada. He works part-time at a home repair store and likes baseball, video games, and playing music. His aspirations include glorifying God and becoming the world’s first “Canadian” Ninja Warrior. You can follow him on Twitter @travisJcrowe.


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  • beautiful truth, Travis. I love that there are other guys out there who understand this. Also, i hold a deep respect for anyone with the raw determination to aspire to be a Ninja Warrior; that takes some doin’ as m ygrandfather would say!

  • Hey, Travis! This is amazing. I think this article can apply to both guys and girls. It’s great to know that there are guys out there who are on the right path. Also, I love rock!

  • I love the fact that you listed “climbing trees” as one of three things you like! I’ve sometimes been banned from climbing trees because my mum gets terrified when I’m 6 metres up!
    Are you Jacquelle Crowe’s brother?

  • Thank you for taking the time to write this article! I like the fact that you embrace Biblical maturity and being responsible to God and others. This article is a really good article. Thank you!

  • Obviously not a guy, but this was really good.

    Also, Ninja Warrior!!! I love the sport so much (even though I’m not technically old enough to compete).

  • Great job Travis. One of the most important messages there is that a Christian life is one defined by constant service. We should never be idling with our time — there’s always more to do, whether through self improvement, producing something & solving problems, or serving.

  • Wow. Travis, thank you so much for writing this. It is so encouraging to hear about young men who understand what it means to live to glorify God. Thank you, brother.

  • Good thoughts, Travis! I particularly like your statement that you are still into things like video games and rock music… but you have a higher aim. Too often, we mistakenly draw a false dichotomy between the two, as if you can either like sports and read fiction, or you can be a mature, godly young man. The two don’t have to be in conflict.

  • Thanks Travis! When I first read the title I was like ‘Oh, this doesn’t apply to me I’m a girl.’ I kept reading and so much of this is true for women and young ladies as well. Thanks again!

    • I thought the same, then I saw the ‘climbing trees’ part and I was like, ‘well, I guess I’ll read the rest.’ Good article! Maybe I’ll drag my brother over and make him read it:p

  • Awesome post, Travis! So true for us girls as well! I have constantly been reminding myself that the most important thing I can do in life is glorify God – that’s all that matters. That purpose we possess frees us from so many lies and heartaches.
    Thanks for your post!

  • I’ve been thinking many of the same thoughts. I’m glad to see another guy struggling with the same stuff, and your insight on how to succeed in the struggle against the cultural norm is really helpful. Thanks for posting!

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