rebelling against low expectations

3 Ways to Fight Comparison


If only I could write like so-and-so does. Oh, and this other person is extremely gifted in drawing. Why can’t I be popular and outgoing like my other friends?

Comparison clouds the heart. It saps the joy right out of you.

God has woven a unique set of skills into the core of each one of us. You are incredibly gifted in ways I could never be–and vice versa. But if I compare my life to yours or you compare your life to mine, we will both end up feeling defeated.

Guaranteed. Every. single. time.

“Comparison is the thief of joy.” — Theodore Roosevelt

What a thief it is: corroding our contentment, bruising the tender places of our heart, and paralyzing our potential.

Perhaps even now you are counting the smarting scars this thief has left on your own life and questioning, “Yes, but how do I stop analyzing my life or talents or looks against others?”

In our longings to be liked and loved by others, I think it will always be part of the long standing war between our flesh and our spirit; however, here are three things I’ve found helpful:

1. Use wisdom.

The stinging backlash of comparison makes us realize deeper than ever before that it simply isn’t wise to do it. “…but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise” (2 Cor. 10:12b).

2. Rejoice in who God made you to be.

Your personality, talents, sense of humor, favorite season, height, introversion or extroversion–everything about you is hand-crafted by God. He knit your inmost being together in your mother’s womb. He knows your frame. It is vital to let your mind resonate and rejoice in this truth. Praise the Lord for it! (Psalm 139)

3. Make the most of your giftings.

Instead of focusing on the skills that you don’t have, sharpen the ones you are blessed with. Find an outlet that suits your specific talents and go for it! Maybe you are an artist, or singer, or runner, or writer. Put your heart into it and become better and better.

“Whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might, for there is no work or thought or knowledge or wisdom in Sheol, to which you are going.” — Ecclesiastes 9:10

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Moriah Simonowich

is a 21-year-old who loves porch swings, wide open skies, lattes, lab puppies, and the crispness of October. It’s rare that she misses an opportunity to slip outside and quietly capture sunsets. Writing is like oxygen to her heart. In addition to fulfilling her role as staff writer at Top Christian Books, she writes for her column Hope for Weary Hearts at PURSUE Magazine. You can connect with Moriah on her blog,, and social media accounts: Instagram, FB, and Twitter.

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