rebelling against low expectations

Accepting Advice is Hard (But Worth It!)


I didn’t want to wait.

I’d already been waiting for months! I’d had plenty of preparation already, I had prayed a lot about it, I had the time, and I was ready to do this hard thing.

God had placed in me a passion and desire to start a Bible study group to disciple younger girls. It was the sort of thing that I couldn’t simply forget or push to the back of my mind, even though I tried.

But then my mom told me that I needed to wait until at least January before we could look into starting it.

“Our family just isn’t ready for that yet,” she said. You see, we had recently moved multiple times unexpectedly, all in a matter of months.

While I had time to pursue the discipleship group right then, the rest of my family (and especially my parents) had too many things on their plates (that had scattered in a thousand directions during our chaotic last few months) which needed their attention.

I really didn’t want to wait, but I decided to heed her advice.

I didn’t mention the group much during that time, though I continued to pray and write down ideas so that I wouldn’t forget them when the time came. My mom had always given me wise advice, and I knew she knew what she was talking about.

After all, she’s the one from whom I’d received most of my training on how to disciple someone in the first place.

Boy, am I glad I waited! (I’m sure you figured that was coming).

In the next few months I faced several health issues that left me scrambling to try and figure out heads from tails in my life. I’m so thankful that I wasn’t trying to disciple other girls during that time. I needed to sort myself out first.

I did end up starting the group that January (with lots of advice from my mom), and my parents’ and youth pastor’s support. God has done some amazing things in it and worked out so many details I never would have thought to consider.

It’s been a blessing both to me and the girls who are part of it.

But that isn’t the first (or, I’m sure, the last) time that I’ve learned to seek wisdom and advice before launching a project — or even while in the midst of a project!

Sometimes it can be hard to accept advice.

Especially when we feel so passionate about something. We don’t want to be patient but rather want it to happen right now. It’s so easy to get excited and dive into something with all our strength and energy.

But our advisers, and those in authority over us, especially our parents, can often see better than we can (Proverbs 20:29).

They want to help us so that we don’t burn out, fail, or lose our zeal when we get tired. They can see when we still need to prepare and learn or when something just won’t fit into other things in life, like school and family.

Or maybe they simply aren’t ready, but for us to succeed, we need them, and so cannot do it on our own. Which is okay. It’s easy to get frustrated, but if we are wise, we will seek advice!

Proverbs has a lot to say about this, but one example is Proverbs 24:6 (NIV), which says,

Surely you need guidance to wage war, and victory is won through many advisers.

Then let’s wage war! Let’s just not forget advisers.

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Sara Willoughby

is the 20-year-old author of He's Making Diamonds: A Teen's Thoughts on Faith Through Chronic Illness. She loves to read, write, and have adventures, be it off to Narnia one more time, wading through mud chasing the family dog, or playing a new board game with her two younger siblings. Sara is also a Lymie, TCK, and Bright Lights leader. You can find her at


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  • Wow, what a great testimony, Sara! And that’s so cool that you started a Bright Lights group! I was involved in one when I was younger and last year I helped a mom-friend lead one with my younger sister and a couple other girls. It’s so amazing to be able to minister to younger girls! thanks for sharing this and being willing to serve!

    • I’m so glad it encouraged you! 🙂 Yes, Bright Lights has definitely been a blessing in my life… before leading a group, I was a part of one for several years that my mom led. 🙂 I’m glad you’ve gotten to be apart of groups as well! 😀

  • Hey there, fellow Bright Lights Leader! Way to go, for not only starting your group, but also for your humble response before you started it! This is so true. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and perspective! 🙂

  • Great post, Sara! I’ve done this SO many times over the years — just jumped right into projects, making huge plans the very day I got the idea — but now that I’m getting older, I’ve realized a lot of the great points you made. 🙂

  • Hey, great post! Taking advice is something I really struggle with, so I was so glad to read this post. I remind myself that God knows exactly what I need to do, and sometimes knowing that comes through in the form of advice from others! Thanks again for such an awesome post.

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